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Re: been very lonely in real life. - March 20th 2017, 08:18 PM
Hi there!

Would it be possible to start working again? Working could have its benefits because you could put your mind on something else, stay on a schedule, and socialize with co-workers to make new friends. Working could be good for you right now because I've found that when we stay home, it allows us to sink deeper into these painful feelings and past experiences.

I understand completely that this girl meant the world to you, and simply moving on isn't that simple but it is important to continue trying nonetheless. Take this as an opportunity to explore yourself. What do you enjoy? What do you want in your future? What kind of person do you want to be? Perhaps this is an opportunity to find yourself in one of the darkest times in your life, and that could mean the world to you.

We all get lonely when we haven't had anyone special in our life, and even more lonely when we lose someone special who was in our life but it is important to find a friend in yourself. That is when you'll discover more independence in which you can take with you in future life journeys. We all find ourselves depending on someone special for our happiness, and when they're gone it is excruciating, which is why it's important to initiate that act of care by ensuring we don't place too much dependence on someone else. Others can make our lives brighter and add lots of happiness, happiness you can't get from just you alone, but make sure that person doesn't hold all of your happiness, okay?

And once you know who you are, and hold your own happiness then someone special will come along to share that happiness and admire who you are. For now, focus on yourself and building up different things in your life to make each day brighter and easier one day at a time. Everything is gonna be okay. You can get through this. I know that losing her was heartbreaking, and that you miss her greatly - I imagine she was a big part of your life, but I have faith that you're stronger than you know you are. And I know that better days are ahead of you. It is worth holding on for what the future brings.

Stay strong. You've got this.