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Congratulations for having the courage to ask him to delete the video.

I'm glad he was cool about it.

Most guys are just happy to get laid.

Plus he was kind enough to ask in advance if it would be OK, so he probably really did delete it.

Remember no guy is ever going to turn down a chance for sex just because he can't also {whatever else he also wants to do}. From his point of view, it's, "Wow! I get to have sex!"

And from that moment on, you, the woman, are in control! He will do anything you ask! You don't like {something}, you just mention it, and he will go to the ends of the earth to set that right, because from his point of view, it's, "Wow! She said yes! I get to have sex! All I have to do is fix {something} and it's on!"

Congratulations. You're wonderful!


To be a little calmer next time, the trick is to train your brain to relax a little. We do this by doing one minute exercises whenever we get a chance. For one minute, take a one minute break and return your focus to the present moment and just observe. When a thought enters your mind, let it go, and return your focus to the present moment. Practice this one minute exercise whenever you get a chance. It'll help shift your brain to a less anxious and less scared state, so next time you're in that situation, you'll be more confident, more present, less anxious, you'll be able to enjoy yourself more, focus on the present moment more, let go more, relax and enjoy more, and it's good for your brain. (I keep a notepad, or cell phone so if I think of something I want to write down, i can write it down, then let go of the thought and return to just observing the present moment. You can also do a body scan, from head to toe, how does your body feel? How do you feel? What do you hear? What do you feel? It helps tune up your brain. [In technical terms, it activates the body's Parasympathetic Nervous System, which leads to better sex and less video taping.)