[Stacey]

I think your feelings are totally valid. Some of the things you mentioned like the use of "uncomfy" and "being really smiley" can come across as infantilizing as they are informal especially they are typically very formal in their comments to you.

It's possible as you previously had trouble opening up, that they are trying to be a bit more informal because they think it may help you feel more comfortable, but since it is doing the opposite, I'd recommend mentioning it to them. A good therapist is open to criticism and willing to change their approach to suit their clients and this is a common and normal part of therapy.

If your relationship with your therapist isn't what you'd like to be overall, then it may mean that they are just not the right fit for you, and if possible, you could seek out another therapist that may be a better fit for what you need.