[oulv]

Thank you all. I've been facing these kinds of daily put-downs from my own parent for quite a few months now, but it seems like they're finally starting to behave like their old self again.

That being said, it's clear that they still lack self-awareness in what they did to me. Although they're much less aggressive when that topic is brought up, they don't understand what was so bad about their behavior then. It's bewildering to wonder how such a kind person could think that insulting their own child every day is acceptable behavior, but I'm certain that this is yet another side effect from the brain surgery.
I'm focusing on building new, better memories with them now instead of trying to make them understand.

Their physical health is becoming more noticeable now that their personality is mostly settled. They have the physique of current Ariana Grande, which is bad. No fainting whatsoever (from what I've seen), and no amount of convincing from Parent 2 seems to be changing anything. I've tried gently sharing snacks, asking them outright about eating anything, really any strategy that I could think of. I'm desperately hoping that this won't contribute to another medical emergency that I'll have to witness.

I can't bear to see another one from the same person, over and over.

I still don't have access to any type of professional external support, and probably won't for a very long time. I'll try making my venting to Parent 2 more systematic, (agreeing on a certain time and time limit for those discussions) since Parent 1 started bawling at me a few days ago about how they can't bear to see the family falling apart if my venting to Parent 2 (as well as every single other problem that we're having. They're also at high risk of losing their job, by the way) gets to them emotionally.