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Originally Posted by ¯|_(ツ)_|¯

While I don't own a penis/testicles, I have had doctor's appointments from the vagina side of things and get that they can make a person nervous.

I'd start out by writing down everything you want to discuss with her (for example, your voice, your sex drive, etc). Basically anything that you are questioning, write it down. I've noticed that I'll be in an office to discuss a problem and will forget a symptom or forget to bring up a topic, especially if I'm nervous or there's a lot to talk about.

I don't know if this is an option there but over here I'm always offered a chaperone when I have an exam of my genitals or breasts. It's customary in my gynecologist's (deals with the reproductive organs of those who were assigned female at birth) office, and there is also a sign at my primary care provider's office saying that if I want a chaperone at any point of the exam to please ask.

If you get an erection, you are NOT a bad person. Our bodies have a habit of responding to stimulus around us without it necessarily meaning that we are aroused or want to have sex with the person. Sometimes I react to my breasts being examined, but I'm asexual and definitely don't have any actual sexual feelings towards it haha. It's a lot less obvious for someone like me, but sometimes it can help to think distracting thoughts while you're getting the exam.

thank u for the advice c: i have a diary that i like writing in a few times a week so i'll write down the questions i have and bring them up at my appointment. in regards to the chaperone i would have to think about it, i'm not sure if i'd rather have my mom there or my 1st cousin who is also a boy who i trust, it might be easier to have another boy there. i trust my mom of course but if someone is examining my penis i'd rather not have my mom see me if i accidentally become erect ;-; regardless i think it might make me feel more comfortable to be supervised so that's something i'll ask my mom about.

im not worried about my doctor thinking i'm some sexual deviant but still even though germans are a bit more lax about nudity than some other countries are it's still embarassing to have a visible erection in front of someone who isn't ur partner obviously ;-; it's mainly just a big embarrassment thing that i'm worried about. i'm already kind of shy being naked in general so adding the whole "i'm gonna be touching it as well as closely looking directly at it" element is nerve wracking for me yk