[Mindfulness.]

Hi there,

That sounds really heavy, and I’m sorry you’re dealing with all of that at once. Losing your dad, family drama, and feeling blamed is a lot for anyone — especially as a teen.

You can acknowledge that what you did wasn’t okay while also recognising that the situation wasn’t handled well by the adults involved. One moment doesn’t define who you are.

It also sounds like your grandparents already had issues with your mom and dad, and that’s not something you caused or can fix. Adults sometimes bring old grudges into situations where they don’t belong.

Feeling guilty just means you care about your mom and don’t want to make things harder for her. That doesn’t make you the problem — it makes you human.

If you can, try to talk to your mom or another trusted adult about how you’re feeling. You don’t have to carry all of this by yourself.