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Originally Posted by КЄІІуs біяІ

I'm going to convert to Islam. I am so happy but my family isn't they're mad at me because of all they read on the 'so called' evils of Muslim life.They're on all the bad stuff they hear on the news my sister got into something about muslim men being mean to their daughters, and how bad she "read" it is. and i don;'t know if it's her feeding my mom these lies or what but it's bothersome. My 'boyfriend' is being drug into the mix as well. my mom's on the fact he's wanting to do it because she believes or read (don't know which) in Islam that women are beneith men.

so she thinks that he's doing it to feel superior over me or something. I don't know what to do or if this topic belongs in family instead. I'm just not sure if I should pick my family or religion.

If you feel in your heart that Islam is for you, and that with it you will truely find peace, then it is best to embrace it, and your family will come to understand, or if not, they will eventually accept your decsion.
They may be very upset for a while, but they will not turn their backs on you, you are their family, and since it's not a crime against them, they will soon forget it.
You are aware of the misconceptions, but they believe it's the truth, maybe if you let them know how it really is, then they won't resent the decsion so much?
Most people converting to Islam have family pressure not to, and once they're in the folds, family members see a postive change and really accept it. It happens all the time.
I have to ask, what is it that makes you want to convert? what it is that has appealed to you?
I hope inshAllah everything goes well for you, this is a great decision and I promise you that if you go forth for the right reasons Allah will help you from ways you can not imagine.


I found this, it may help when things, if they do, get rough:

An excerpt from the lecture: "The Greater the Hardship, the Greater the Reward" by Abu Uwais

It is related in Saheeh, ‘Who are the people who will receive the most difficulties, trials and tribulations? He said: the prophets, then those most like them, then like them, a man will be tested in accordance with his deen. A man will go through difficulties in according with his deen. A man will go through hardship in according with his deen. A man will experience sadness and grief in accordance with his deen.

If his deen is strong, then his difficulties will be great. His trials will be hard. If he has in his deen some ease, or some lightness then he will be tested in accordance with the likeness of his deen. Because trials and tests won't leave a servant until his sins are forgiven. That is because the servant, he undergoes so many trials and tests, his sins are forgiven and it will be as if he is walking upon the earth without a sin - that he is walking upon the earth without a sin.

In another Hadith : If you have a difficulty in your life brother, if you have a difficulty in your life sister, if there is some sadness in your household, if you lost a child, if that child has been hurt, if there is a sickness in your family or whatever the case, whatever difficulty or trial, whatever problem you are going through, listen to the words of Messenger (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam), it will make it clear. Listen to the words of Rasoolullah (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam), it will cool your heart, it will take you to that which is right, it will correct you, it will guide you, it will increase your faith, and your patience: "There is no difficulty that happens to a Muslim except that Allaah removes a sin because of it even if a thorn pricks him and even to that degree." If Allaah removes to that degree what about some other sadness? Or some other loss or some other trial or some other difficulty?

Lastly Abu Huraira (radiyallaahu ‘anhu) that he heard the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) and also Abu Said Al Khudri : ‘No pain, or sickness affects a believer. No tiredness (this is also sickness), or grief nor any worry except that Allaah removes from that person a sin because of it.

This should tell us to be patient. This should tell us that our pathways are not going to be full with rose petals and life is not always going to give you that which you want or think you deserve, that there are going to come down your way or into your life things that are sad, things that bring you grief, things that bring difficulty but your test is shown, your character is shown, whether you can weather the storm by being patient with the decree of Allaah, in praising Allah (subhana wa ta'ala), in hoping a reward from Allaah (subhana wa ta'ala), for no one can reward what Allah (subhana wa ta'ala) will give the person who has patience. Allah (subhana wa ta'ala) has granted it and he will grant it without calculation. Will grant it without it being something that we could calculate or imagine. So any difficulty brother reflect upon this issue that is khair (good) for you, is good for you, if you are a believer and if you are patient and if you praise Allah (subhana wa ta'ala) and it is a way to remove your sins and a way that you have no understanding of what Allaah ! (subhana wa ta'ala)! may be preparing you for a better station, a better status in the Hereafter that you would not have reached if He had left you in that state that you were in. But when he tested you, you were patient and therefore Insha-Allaahu wa ta'ala that position or that status will be there.

SubhaanAllah. May Allah ta'ala make us upon those who turn back to him in times of difficulty and may we be of those who have sabr in it. Aameen.


(I'm sure you know that the momment someone reverts to Islam, their sins are completely wiped away and they are as pure as the day they were born, so instead of the erasing of sins, there is a collection of good deeds.)

I do advise you to study it before you take it up. It is best to know exactly what you are getting into. To me it is the best way of life, but before you step into the Islam, know exactly how beautiful it is. If you have any questions, feel free to ask.