[~Misguided Ghosts~]

Trust me, you don't want to start self harming. It can turn into addiction very quickly. Nobody on this site is going to promote anything that can cause harm to a person. Try to find a different stress reliever that works for you, such as drawing, painting, dancing, exercise, etc, and as for the headaches, I would talk to a physician about those and see what can be done. Please don't start cutting, it does add a lot of stress in the long run and is only a temporary fix to the problem.