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Re: Just got a positive pregnancy test after rape... to keep or not keep? How did you decide? - March 13th 2012, 05:10 PM

Adding to what Sammi has said, if you go with open adoption, you must keep in mind you have no say at all in what happens with your child. You have no legal status of the child. And if you want to see the child for their birthday and the adoptive parents say no, you almost never will win the case. So, you relinquish all rights, even if it is an open adoption.

Now, if you get good adoptive parents, then no worries. One thing to do is see if they wouldn't mind you meeting every few weeks with them for lunch to get to know them before the baby is born. Sometimes open adoptive parents love to have the birth parent(s) around.

Anyways, you don't have to get an abortion if you do not want to. Despite it being unpleasant with your mother, she can no make you have an abortion. Also, if your mother threatens to kick you out (not sure how your mother is, so I am just providing this) she can get in legal trouble. If you are under 18, your parents cannot legally kick you out of the house.

And I do suggest going to Planned Parenthood. They have them all over the US. Mosto f their services are extremely cheap or free. They can provide counseling to you about how to deal with the rape, as well as give you some other resources for help, and help you with your decision on keeping the child, aborting, or giving the child up for adoption.