Hi! I don't feel like I can really answer your questions, I have no experience with sex or relationships. But if you would like a christian/catholic perspective on this issue, then you can check this site out. The first audio clip, by Jessica Harris is awesome.
http://theporneffect.com/who-does-it...omen/228-audio
Differences of habit and language
are nothing at all if our aims are
identical and our hearts are open.
~J.K. Rowling~
"The Beginning," Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire,
2000, spoken by the character Albus Dumbledore
Talk to me anytime, I'm here for you!