[Kumagoro]

Hey Des,

I agree with everyone else here - you need to cut contact for a bit, just to come to terms with it. Maybe you'll stay friends with her in the long run, but right now you need to spend some time with you. Or close friends, or family, or someone who isn't her. Otherwise it really will hurt more.

Different things work for different people, of course. Sometimes listening to music can get you through a break-up. Sometimes it helps to take your mind off it and sometimes you need your own time and space to think it over and come to terms with it. I don't think overanalysing it will help though - maybe you just need to find a middle ground. Spend some time with other people, listen to music, watch TV and try not to dwell on it too much. But don't be afraid to cry, vent or grieve if that's what you need to do. It's better to get it out of your system if you can.

Take care, Des. I know you can get through this.