I guess you're right- the reason I don't tend to ask guys out is an epic fear of rejection.. I know I'm now old enough to know that you can ask someone on a date without it necessarily meaning much but every time in the past I've 'put myself out there' by expressing an interest in someone its gone badly. The only relationships I've had have started when the guy expressed an obvious interest before I did. So I do tend to wait until they express an obvious interest (or to give up if this is never forthcoming :P). My problem too is that I feel like I'm flirting really obviously but some girls (in the current situation in particular, lots of our mutual female friends) act like that all the time. In fact I'm probably LESS flirty than them because I'm nervous. Haha. I know its probably my fault
but I still feel rubbish!