Addiction to beautiful girls, and being shallow.
 

I'm 15, and almost 16. I think I'm pretty shallow, and I only have an attraction to beautiful girls. I tend to try and avoid the overweight, more unattractive girls, just so I'm not seen with them. I know it's wrong, and I know 'beauty is only skin deep,' but I still can't help it.

I'm scared what others think.
I can't image myself with someone ugly/overweight, for some reason.

Any tips on how to become less 'shallow'.
I know beautiful girls are a good thing, but half the ones I've dated are horrible people, and not near my type.

Re: Addiction to beautiful girls, and being shallow.
 

Re: Addiction to beautiful girls, and being shallow.
 

Re: Addiction to beautiful girls, and being shallow.
 

Hi mate, I'd say give yourself some time. You're only 15! That's the age where raging hormones kick it and all that. I guess it's only natural that you're only attracted to good looking people. Overtime, as you begin to meet more people and have more experiences, your views and the things that attract you may change. Try to meet a variety of people and make as many friends as possible. The fact that you're concerned about your shallowness and that you find half of the attractive girls you've dated horrible already shows that you're a deep person who is not only going for looks. So relax and don't worry too much about it! You'll be fine.

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Re: Addiction to beautiful girls, and being shallow.
 

i was the same way with my guys. i only slept with the thin tall guys. the only times i was with someone ugly or fat was when they forced themselves on me, or when i was drunk or fucked up on some drug. im 18 and i have slept with 31 guys, all but 3 or 4 ugly or fat. after i went into rehab, i found that looks do not matter. the hottest guys were the ones that cared more about themselves, and didnt think twice before they would hit me. needless to say, i didnt think twice before i hit them back. :D to me, the attractive guys have ugly personalities. looks fade over time; skin gets wrinkly, hair turns gray and falls out in some cases, and teeth deteriorate. personality is for life. i found a guy, and he may not have the best teeth, or shave that damn beard that keeps dropping scraggly hairs all over the place makin me gag when i clean, but he is a hard working, sweet guy that knows what hard work is, and knows how to have fun and make me happy, and that is why i moved in with him, and may possibly be marrying him this summer. :}

Re: Addiction to beautiful girls, and being shallow.
 

At your age it's normal. Most people grow out of it.
Like after you are with so many people you will notice that not everyone is beautiful on the inside as well as out.
You'll figure it out.
So for now, just try not to block out nice girls that may not be the best looking.
And stop worrying about what other people think.

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Nothing wrong with that AT ALL mate.
Theres always something which attracts you at first to want to get to know someone even more, in that way.
You arent shallow, if that was the case then everybody is. Its just what you prefer. Beautiful to you might not be beautiful to somebody else. I do like tall, thin (not too thin) brunette girls who I consider beautiful with a nice smile and eyes, some people however prefer larger women, to them, they are beautiful. Nothing wrong at all, its just what you prefer.

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I think it's just your preference. People tend to try and categorize people's looks into certain groups, such as "cheerleaders" tend to be "hot". I find them repulsive and would never consider dating one JUST BECAUSE she's a cheerleader. But that's my preference.

I find it a little unfair that you are stereotyping teenage guys to like "hot" girls, although it is probably fairly true.

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Yea... like everybody has said, usually the "good looking" people have really bad personalities. Not all of them, but in my experience they are few and far between. Have you ever seen those people though that just glow... they may not be perfect or particularly good looking but they are very attractive because of who they are. When looking for a girl to date my advice would be to focus on what comes out of their mouths. Also if you see someone you think is beautiful don't just jump on it. Just listen first. Think about what makes the people you talk to unique, special. Don't worry too much. I think you just need to figure out what you want. It's okay though there's nothing wrong with you. You're pretty normal. :)

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It's natural for people to be initially attracted to cute/hot people at first. IF the person is ugly, no offense, but your not going to be attracted to them :P . The trick is to see BEYOND that, and get to know that person better. Talk to the person, hang out, find out if you have something in common. Yes, you can "fall in love" with someone solely on looks, but it never last beyond making out and sex. However, if you DO start talking and getting to know these girls better. MAybe you can find tha one you can love even on the telephone :) .

I wouldn't think much about this phase. EVERYbody goes though it. just remember to keep talking to the cute girls.