Dilemma Involving Rape
 

I have raped my girlfriend multiple times throughout the last few months. It's disgusting to a point and I nor her know what to do..Obviously I am at fault for this. She wants to tell her Therapist so she at least has someone to tell because she loves me, doesn't want me to get into trouble and wishes to be able to get it out of her head and just have a good relationship again. But my girlfriend has told one of her closest friends who will testify if the cops were notified, which would result in a broken relationship, fixing nothing (in her eyes), and thus not ending in the intended manner. I, in no way, wish to go to jail and would gladly kill myself if it means that she would be happy again but she insists that, that is not what she wants. Going to jail doesn't help us reach a good relationship together again. I wish to know what exactly you think we, her or I specifically should do so that this ends with us back in a wonderful relationship. I, for a fact, know that I will never rape her again but I want this to be easy for her even if it isn't for me. It is Her wish, as it is also mine to remain in a loving relationship.


Background Information:
I, The Boyfriend: Raped multiple times by my brothers as a child.
Her, My Girlfriend: Molested multiple times by close family friends as a child.
Both of Us: Have attempted Suicide once in our lives.

Re: Dilemma Involving Rape
 

Personally I havnt dealt with something like this, but from a outsiders view. I would say talk to her about it, let her know that it will never happen again, she must also know your background with your brothers. you obviously want a serious relationship with this girl so just let her know, and never do that again. But you must understand how she wanted to tell someone, it is something that probly bugged her very much. Deal with your girlfriend show her you changed. what the friend does is out of your control

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Indeed and i understand that she did have the need to tell someone and I agree with her. It just kind of hurt cause I definitely do not trust any of my friends enough to not judge me harshly and look down on me for what i have done to her. I do indeed feel bad for what i have done and have promised never to do it again. But I just feel bad cause her therapist is no where in touch and hasn't contacted her, so other than her unpredictable friend, she has no one to confide in.

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