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Idk if its tech. rape

Well, i was dating my bf for a year ( broke up in ocotber). In august, i started drinking, but because he was contolling i only could with him, which actually should have been a good thing. But anyway, i was a virgin, and i told him its gonna be a while before i wanted to have sex, i told him so many times and he knew it. But when i was drunk one time, he asked me repeadidly if i wanted to have sex. Thanks to the alchohal i said yes, no yes no yes no yes no. Then he said yes? and he slipt on a condom, and because i was so wasted he was easily able to do whatever he wanted, and he did. It was only for like 10 seconds though.

Idk if it is or not, because at one point i did say yes, and i put myself in such a bad situtaion. he did other things, like id be at his house and hed make me "finish him" before i took a nap, or even before i got something to eat or went to the bathroom. and if i didnt hed either get mad and say then u shouldnt have lead me on, or just not talk to me. He also hit me a couple times, but tht stopped within 4 or 5 months.

thanks for you help
<3laura

Re: Idk if its tech. rape

and i did read the sticky thing about the alchohal.
but i DID say yes at a point
thts why im having trouble

Re: Idk if its tech. rape

Yes, it is technically rape.

When you're under the influence of alcohol, you are automatically not able to consent to sex. Just as when you're under a certain age you're not able to consent to sex.

Re: Idk if its tech. rape

I am really sorry this happened to you. It is technically rape, because he knew that you were not in any fit state to say yes or no. Also because you said no at one point, at that point he should have instantly stopped. Have you seen a counselor or told anyone? If not I would really advise it, it could help you get some closure and deal with this. This was in no way your fault, and he is a horrible person for doing this to you. You have done really well to come here and write this. PM me anytime if you need to talk.