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Rape and Realtionships.

Right, i was thinking the other day, how much being raped/abused, has affected me, even in my current relationships with men etc, even though it happened like 10 years ago,

I completely withdrew from boys until i was 14, and like now, i seem to of lost all dignity with men, and sleep with anyone who offers, just because plainly because of the abuse, i think no one would want me other wise.

i was just thinking how people who went through childhood abuse, are dealing with realtionships now?

Re: Rape and Realtionships.

I know what you're going through. I was raped at the age of 8 and like you, I withdrew from men completely but then changed later and started sleeping with everyone and anyone. I thought to myself "I've lost my dignity so there's nothing for me to lose" so, yeah. A friend of mine ended up having to get me out of it because she could see it was destroying me.

Being raped/abused is a traumatic experience for anyone and it's natural you want to forget about it but sleeping with anyone and everyone won't do any good in the long run. It may seem like the solution now but it really isn't.

Eventually, you'll find someone who loves you for who you are, I promise you that. I now have a boyfriend who is extremely understanding and my close friends are amazing. They're all there for me when I need to vent. Anyone worthy of your love and friendship will be there for you and won't leave just because of your problems.
xxx

Re: Rape and Realtionships.

i did the same exact thing,
i was raped when i was 14 by my boyfriend at the time,
and he took my virginty,before he did that..
i wanted to wait until marriage or finding someone worth it you know,

but now at the age of 18/
ive slept with over ten men..
and thats just sleeping with, ive done other things with probably over 30
i just give myself to anyone who even looks in my direction.
becuase i dont think im worth more than my body,
and i dont think that anyone will even be intersted in me
if i dont give them what i tihnk they want.

being raped deffiently changed who i am forever i believe..
and its not fair, that he had to take that from me
and get this power to cahnge who i am fundementally for the rest of my life

ill never be that innocent little girl again, ever.
and that really hurts.

so i totally feel your pain.
and get what your saying,
your deffinetly not a lone in the matter.

its really hard for me atleast
to respect a body that noone else has respected or loved..
and so i don't.

being raped has cuased my life so much pain,
i developed an eating disorder,cutting,suicide,drinking,drugs,and hookups.

i would deffinetly say that peo0ple can heal from it,
and be healthy,but i dont think that ill ever be "normal."

i can't evne look in the mirror without seeing his hands all over me,
makes me sick.

Re: Rape and Realtionships.

I was raped when I was 11 years old by my best friend's brother.
I stayed away from any and all boys until I turned 15.
I found a boy who I thought would change my opinion.
Then when my boyfriend (now ex) found out about the rape years before, he raped me on multiple occasions.
So I know exactly how you feel.
I'm so sorry this is happening to you.
This shouldn't happen to anyone.
I now do not believe in having sex. I probably won't have it for a very very long time.