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Selena6220

August 30th 2014 05:34 PM

How to ask parents for permission !!! ;(

So, Im 15 &' I have dated before but I never told my parents. I always dated without them knowing but my older brother snitched. So now they dont trust me. I havent dated in 2 years to show my parents that I was sorry but they still bring stuff up from the past. I've been talking to this boy I really like but this time I dont want to go behind my parents back.. This time I want to ask them for permission &' tell them that im dating but I dont know how to talk to them about letting me date bacause they are so over protective. They think im going to have sex and end up pregnant but I believe in having sex until I get married. They dont believe me &' I really want to go out with that boy because I feel ready. Im a smart student my grades are excellent &' Im always getting awards and medals at school. How can I talk to them? I really need help because They always start screaming at me &' I get scared of them sometimes!:(

Always *

August 30th 2014 08:56 PM

Re: How to ask parents for permission !!! ;(

I guess you have to ask yourself if your fear of your parents anger will overrule your liking of this boy.
If you truly believe it's important enough to risk that then I guess you have to ask if you want to ask for permission or if you want to tell them this is what you're planning to do.

I suggest 2 options here because asking permission suggests you are willing to hear no. If you simply say "mom, dad, I like this guy, and I know you don't want me to date, but I believe I am ready for this. I have proven myself mature and responsible in (these ways). Additionally, when it comes to relationship specific concerns I do not plan to become intimate with a boy any time soon. I really like this boy and would appreciate it if you would give us a chance. I am willing to invite him over for dinner and allow you to meet his parents to address additional concerns"

Gwynbleidd

August 31st 2014 12:26 AM

Re: How to ask parents for permission !!! ;(

Pretty much what Always said. Just go forth and say "I like [insert name here] and wish to date him, I know you do not like the idea of it but I will be responsible with it, and if you'd like I would invite him to dinner so you can meet him"

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