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Gossiping parents

So my parents always gossip about me to my sister and her husband. Everytime they come over ( or we go to them) the make fun of me and say hurtfull things. They say them while i'm not there but close enough to hear them.
Today they came over again. We were having a barbecue and everything was going fine. I had to go to the toilet and when i got back i heard them say that i left because i was angry about something and they lied. They laughed at me knowing i was nearby and could hear them. They said i was childish and acting stupid again. And that they wished i was normal instead of being me ( they want me to be perfect and i'm never goud enough)But they always do things like that. They lie and they know that i get upset if they talk about me behind my back.
So i left and went to my room ( without eating), they laughed again because i got upset.
Know i'm sittinn here in my room, i'm really hungry but i can't go down because then my parents will give me a lecture. They always do that. They say i need to grow up, that i need to stop being stupid and annoying. And some other stuff.
I just don't know what to do.
It's bad enough being ridiculed at school , know the same thing is happening at home and i can't handel it. I'm never good enough and they always criticize me . And always make everything about them. I can't say anything to them because they will say i'm lying,overreacting, that they have it worse.
I just want to be respected but i'm not😕

Re: Gossiping parents

Hi,

I'm sorry that your parents talk behind your back to your relatives, no one should have to experience that and it can be so hurtful. I am really sorry that they do that.

I really think you need to sit down with them and address this problem. If you don't, I feel as though it is only going to get worse with time and it's going to continue to negatively impact you and your interactions with them and your other family members. Maybe try to talk to them when your relatives aren't over and tell them that this is not okay, that it hurts you, and that no one should be ridiculed for leaving to use the restroom. You mentioned that they know that this upsets you - but they still continue to do it. I think you need to be straight up with them and ask them why they keep doing this if they know it is upsetting you. It doesn't make much sense and it is really rude of them.

You might be worried about just getting lectured or them not stopping and it making it worse. I'm not going to lie and say that won't happen but I think it is always worth a shot. You'll always have that what if in the back of your mind and if you don't act on your feelings you're letting them win by hurting you. You do not deserve to be treated in this way, and if they don't end up listening, at least you tried. That shows so much.

Good luck,
Lauren