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Girls: How important is personality and energy vs. looks?

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Barb had a good point. To add on to it, most girls tend to have very low self esteem. The problem is everywhere we look, be it TV or magazines, there are extremely skinny girls as models. So when we look at ourselves and see all of our flaws when we aren't wearing makeup and such, we tend to compare ourselves. That all leads to us feeling like we aren't pretty enough.

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Originally Posted by Oneirophobia (Post 905924) Girls: How important is personality and energy vs. looks?

In my opinion, I have to find the guy attractive, but if I don't like his personality or our personalities just don't work well together then I won't date him. So both are important in their own ways, but personality definitely is important, and even more so than looks.

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It's not really a one or the other kind of thing. Looks don't really matter, but attraction does. Different people are attracted to different things. Me? I like tall skinny guys. I've never seriously dated someone who was under 6ft (unless you count when I was 14, but since then he's grown to be around 6 foot). Don't ask me why, I don't know. I don't plan these kinds of things, it's just what I'm attracted to. I never rejected a guy because he was short, but I've also never gone out of my way to find a short guy. Other people are "chubby chasers" or some look for men older than themselves. Still, others like a certain ethnicity. My best friend likes black guys, but she's also dated white guys.

That being said, personality also matters. I tend to date cute nerdy guys. Like the kind that know how to be social and funny, not the kind who take video games way too seriously and don't shower for weeks because they're too busy playing them. A sense of humor is also good. I really wouldn't date a guy if he was boring either.

Really, you just have to go well together. Sometimes people work together, sometimes they don't. I also find that morals play into this a lot.

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Affecting how attracted I am to her is too stringent a test, I think. There are all sorts of things that will affect how attracted I am to a girl without making her unattractive. In reference to your question, it's nice if a girl has that gap between her thighs, but if she doesn't she can still be hot. Still, there are a few attributes that can send a girl sliding rapidly towards unattractiveness. Rolls or folds when she's standing up or a hanging stomach, for example.

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guys: Would you rather make the first move, or have the girl make the first move?

We don't.....btw my first relationship was at 14...horrid since the guy was a total jerk to me....oh well...
next question: Why do alot of guys want younger women o.0

no offense, same for girls with guys

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I think it has a lot to do with status.

Just as some women seek out older husbands (claiming experience, money, social status, and maturity as main reasons) it's seen as something of a status symbol to have a younger wife.

However I do not believe that it's the only thing that factors into a relationship, I do truly believe that there is a degree of love and attraction that factors into a relationship.

- Justin

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Aside from the whole "older women are less attractive" reason later in life, younger girls are just easier to get. You already have a level of dominance and status over them just by your age. You always want to be able to date the most attractive person you can, and it's a lot easier to date the hottest junior than the hottest senior.

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Are ALL guys really that sexist...o.0 oh well...

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QUOTE=Apple Orchard Ghost;906905]

I know I'm not a guy, but I'd just like to point out that not ALL guys are sexist. I know many men who call themselves feminists and act like it as well. Generalizations aren't the best way to go about things.[/quote]
I was referring to an older post on this about a question that was answered in a sexist matter. But the attitudes of MOST American males make you wonder....

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Firstly, I am personally unsure of which question you meant. I'm sure if you pointed it out, users could justify their responses.

Secondly "MOST" is not a good sample demographic. I would safely assume that 10% of American Males display truly sexist behaviour, but I would be willing to guess as many as 40% are acused of being sexist over issues that really aren't favoring of one gender or another.


- Justin

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Ok guys- what is the most important part of a relationship to you. Be honest!

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Coming from someone who's never been in a relationship before (or on a date even) that is a bit of a complicated issue. For me they have be attractive (by my standards), have a good personality (by my standards) and perhaps most importantly they have to connect with me on a personal basis. Simply having the looks and the personality aren't good enough, they have connect with me as a person and vice-versa. Just my opinion though.

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Here's my question for the guys;
What goes through your mind after you break it off, with whom you once called your 'true love'? May not be answerable to some, but I'm just really curious.

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It really depends on why the break up happened. I usually feel bad, wish it could have worked out. Unless the person I broke up with was batshit crazy, then I'm relieved. Ready to move on. :p

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Sometimes it's just the matter of having fun. Also they tend to be "easier to get."

It probably depends on the guy. I'm a little shy when it comes to dating and whatnot, so I'd rather have the girl make the first move. To me it shows she's interested.

Personality, likes / dislikes (makes it less awkward in conversations with the girl!), and, for me, a little bit on looks. She doesn't have to be supermodel material, but a cute / pretty girl is nice. :)

I've never had to break it off personally (I've been the dumpee in the two relationships I've had), but I'd say it depends on the relationship and the reason to be breaking up. Was she crazy? Then I'm relieved. Was she special to me, but I didn't feel anything anymore? I feel bad, but it was for the best. Well, I'd feel bad for breaking up with a girl for any reason in particular.

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Do guys like it when you make the first move?

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I'd find it surprising at first. But, as I said earlier, it means that she's interested, and it also depends if he's interested back.

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He initiates conversation with you, not the other way around.

That and he tries to use playful names, an uses lots of smilies in texts.

Appearance and personality.

You have to have both, I won't compromise on either.

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Well, I'm self-admittedly jealous... And it's tough to get over. But one thing to do is to have your boyfriend hang out with some of your male friends. Assuming that goes well, he'll be able to talk to/trust these guys about you. That's what makes me feel the best; when I can trust the guys and girl both. Because it's most likely not you he doesn't trust, but the others; and that's a fixable problem. Go for it~

A question for all the females out there... How do you turn down a guy, even though you actually really like him a lot? I'm in the receiving end of that, with my best friend who's expressed a lot of interest... But she refuses to even consider going out with me. And I don't know why!

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No ;p I've been with my girl for 2 years now & the sex get's better every time (x Sure sometimes I'm not in the mood ;p but for the most part I'm down xD I just never really lost any attraction towards her :D She has the most Beautiful Smile (;

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Depends on what terms the break up ended on. For me personally, if I were to do the separating from my "one true love", I would mostly be pretty confused. I'm sure my routine would be shattered (as most of my relationships have been very routine), and I wouldn't know what to do with my time. I'd probably spend it diving into University, or picking up my shattered routine with a bender on some video games. Nonetheless, the only thing that would probably be shattered would be my routine - so long as I had lost all feeling for my "one true love".

But honestly, breaking up with someone you once called a true lover would always be difficult, no matter if you did or did not do the separating.

There's honestly no telltale signs. I display no more emotion or affection towards a girl I like as opposed to a girl I do not. However, it's typical for a guy to be one of three things:
- Nervous;
- Playful/boystrous; and/or
- Flirty.

Obviously, the only way to truly know is to compare his behaviour towards you vis-a-vis his behaviour towards other girls (or asking, of course!).

Two things:
- Don't have male friends;
- Reassure him by doing something that proves that he can trust you.

The latter would be more difficult, because it would honestly take one of your guy friends to come onto you, and then you reject him infront of your boyfriend. That's the way I see it, anyway.

I honestly got bored with my last girlfriend. Only because it was the same everytime. Just spice it up a bit.

Despite the fact that it was the same everytime and I did get bored, she is still probably the best I've ever had. So, just because a guy gets bored, does not necessarily mean that he does not find you to be diabolically good in bed.

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I definately agree!

My dream girl is someone who has energy, someone who is unique and ain't afraid to show it. A music lover haha :p. Looks, the face is reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaally important more than anything and the eyes are essentially everything.

I am abd at this haha.

For the girls, is "bad boy" an attractive style?

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Yes, and no. Yes, because girls like bad boys because they feel like they can "change" them and they like that challenge. And no because some girls just really want a good guy.
Question for the guys: What really makes a guy cheat on their girlfriend?