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Feeling Like the ONLY Lonely One (one of my biggest insecurities).

Morning, guys, what's happening.

If you guys are reading this thread then by natural association, this thread is online. You have no idea how long I have been waiting for this LOL. Either the site is down or TeenHelp logs me out or I don't have time but I never got to it LOL.

Anyways, here I am. I recently got back from an exam break and I was facing this issue then, about a month ago, but I still want to get advice about it. Just a warning as well, I know around the forums, I'm seen as this really happy guy and I still am, don't get me wrong, but I'm about to give away one of my biggest insecurities, so if you don't want to know, then feel free to stop reading here =).

Here goes.

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I'm basically feeling lonely.

The natural human killer.
HUMAN loneliness.

I mean relationship loneliness and to a degree, friendship loneliness as well. ESPECIALLY relationship loneliness. I have recently come back from an exam break, as I said and I sometimes came back when I DIDN'T have an exam just to study and get advice about what the exams were going to be like and planning and time management etc.

The thing is, when I was walking around the school, no matter where I was I saw couples absolutely everywhere. It drove me insane. People around the school holding hands and kissing and I guess that hurts knowing that I'm still alone myself.

There is one couple in the school where every single time I see them, they are on top of each other. I mean, I know they don't mean it but it hurts seeing so many couples everywhere I go, knowing that I'm still single. And they were everywhere, I couldn't avoid it.

I also couldn't avoid seeing girls. Girls who were amazing and beautiful and totally out of my league. I mean I hear girls all the time talking about guys like, "oooh, he's so cute", knowing that no one feels the same way about me.

Seemingly, I have no chance with some of the people I genuinely really like.

It's basically loneliness and jealousy and seeing everyone together knowing that I'm "the odd one out", that I'm alone. The latter was the most difficult, seeing so many couples, dead set everywhere I looked.

Just comments, I guess and how come it's so prevelant in schools, everyone seems to get together in schools?

H.

Re: Feeling Like the ONLY Lonely One (one of my biggest insecurities).

Hey there. I'm sure we've spoken before.

I think as humans we naturally desire things we want. Especially since love contains so much happiness, it's just a natural want on its own. If it really helps anything and I don't mean to sound conceited. If I do, well, I'm really just trying to help you. I don't know if you're in college, but I'll share a High School story with you. When I was in High School, I was one of the popular, pretty girls. Yet, I was the nice popular kind. I was asked out by a lot of people, but turned them down. I realized that none of these "boys" were stable enough to handle the emotional, loving desire want that I needed. Point is, most school related relationships USUALLY rarely last. You are not alone and believe me on this one. I have felt alone for the longest time even as a popular girl in High School. I understand how we all have certain standards, but most relationships you see in school don't normally last. Your best bet is to meet different people in other areas. It seems hard meeting the RIGHT people, which I can assure you is probably the only hard part. But meeting various people just to meet them isn't that bad either. Whether it's in person or on the internet or wherever, there is someone for everyone. Progress is made when you decide to look forward. Just keep looking up. :) Good luck!