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Anxiety is making me lonely

I really need help I just can't talk to people anymore I get tense and literally cant think of anything to say and I put pressure on myself to think of something and get nervous and panicky and my voice goes weird, I just hate it and im really lonely because out of college ive got noone to see and in college im sat with a group of people and I only really know one of them from primary but I havent seen her for years so we've got nothing in common anymore, I just need a way to become less tense and be able to think of things to say because noone knows my personality and I hate the way I act now and im sick of being so alone it was supposed to change when I went to college :(. Sorry this is all one long sentence that may not make sense youl get the idea though I hope

Re: Anxiety is making me lonely

I know how you feel, sweety. I'm very lonely too because of my anxiety, and because I isolate myself. I hate it.

You can always send me a PM, I'm here for you. :)

hugs xx

Re: Anxiety is making me lonely

Hi Charlie :)

I've struggled with anxiety badly and at one point I didn't dare go outside. I became very isolated and can relate some what to what you're going through.

But honestly, I really believe more than anything, that the only way to beat the things that make us anxious is to do those things. And at the time it's going to be terrifying which is hard because it might cause you to feel negative emotional at first and even physical feelings that aren't nice but once you've done, I bet you'll feel really glad and proud of yourself. Imagine if everyone stopped doing things in life because of fear. No one would get anyone, so as hard as it is, I think you need to start putting yourself in those situations and socialising with people.

Of course you can go in a little prepared. Try practising some unnoticeable breathing techniques for example. If you start to feel anxious after you've put yourself in that situation, you can do these breathing techniques. Try breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth. And you can also think of a list of conversation starters before you put yourself in that situation so that when you are in that situation you have a hole list of idea's of things to talk about. And that can be anything. The more you engage with people, the more they will engage back and that means, they'll begin to start conversations with you too. Remember, conversations are a two way thing - the work isn't going to be left all down to you!

I hope this helps a little :)