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[SIZE="a"][SIZE="a"]i have a problem ive been so horny lately all i want to do is play with my self. im missing out on things my friends do because of it. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!![/size][/size]

Okay, just calm down. Missing your social life it's a problem. How it started? There should be something that caused this.

Depending on your age, a heightened libido can be quite natural. However, if it affects your every day life, then it becomes a problem. When you feel the way you do, does it prevent you from doing basic functions like eat, drink, sleep, or other similar things?

Sometimes it's natural to choose masturbation over doing other activities. Perhaps it could be good to look into why you choose one over the other? Do you feel there is less value spent being with your friends as opposed to masturbation? Is there another issue that you feel is perhaps effecting you?

Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out!

Like Rivière said, it's quite normal to be drawn to sexual arousal when you're young. However, I'd be concerned if it is affecting your day-to-day life.

As with everything, too much of anything is a bad thing. If you feel that masturbation is taking up too much of your time and energy, be assured that it is 100% possible to reduce your frequency of engaging in it. I know loads of people who have done so. Here are some ideas:

1. Set small goals for yourself. It's not easy to go cold turkey and completely stop masturbating all of a sudden. Plan on how you can masturbate less this week, and then the week, after, and so on. By keeping goals for yourself, it will be easier to overcome this habit. You can keep a journal to track your progress.

2. Engage yourself in other pursuits. Every time you feel the urge to masturbate, try to divert your attention to another hobby that you enjoy. It has to be something you really enjoy - or else you'll choose masturbation over that activity! For example, a good book is a useful distraction.

3. If it is beyond your control, I suggest meeting a reliable adult who can guide you. If you can meet your school counsellor, do that. They will be in a good position to help you.

Remember, anything is possible with effort. Sending you all my best wishes :hug: