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Unregistered January 26th 2021 08:13 PM
If I'm ok with my friend using my vagina for herself? Does this make me a sexual?
 
[FONT=""][COLOR=""][SIZE=""][FONT=""][COLOR=""][SIZE=""]My friend is bisexual. She uses my vagina to orgasm at times. For me it's no big deal I've let her do this while I'm texting someone or w.e. I don't get aroused by it it's the same as if nothing was happening. She enjoys it specifically with me because I don't get aroused? Like don there I'm pretty flat etc... Because it doesn't do much even when she tries to do clitoral to clitoral contact it's like I can feel her but it doesn't in the least make aroused. But I don't see why it's wrong to let her do it if she wants to either I mean if it gets her off that's good for her. But she's been using my vag since we were in junior high. Anyhow I don't generally feel attracted to women. Like I don't have any desire to do that with her nor do I see it as a bad thing so I don't mind if she does that to get off. I do find it kind of gross when she comes on my vagina but that's the thing I kind of feel like vaginas are gross including mine. So I don't really care too much. I mean periods are disgusting way more than her rubbing her vagina against mine. I've had this act done at least 100 times probably more since junior high. So does this mean I'm bisexual even though I only get aroused for guys? WHat is my sexuality?[/size][/color][/font][/size][/color][/font]

¯|_(ツ)_|¯ January 26th 2021 08:30 PM
Re: If I'm ok with my friend using my vagina for herself? Does this make me a sexual?
 
Hey,

I think your sexuality is how you want to describe it in this case. You said that you're not really into women and that you find vaginas gross. To me, that doesn't sound like you're really attracted to women, and may just do these things with your friend for her pleasure. Sometimes there is that one person who you want to do sexual activities with without it having to change anything. You did say that you get aroused for guys though, which is important to look at. It may be that you're straight, but do want to do sexual activities with your friend without it changing things. You can define your sexuality any way you feel the most comfortable with and nobody has the right to judge or change that for you.

You do say that you do find it kind of gross when she comes on your vagina, so I would think about whether or not you truly are comfortable with letting her touch you. I get that it's good for her that she gets pleasure out of it, but make sure that you truly are okay with it and won't regret it later, since you said it feels gross when she comes on your vagina. If you decide you don't care about the arrangement that's fine, but if you think about it and decide that it doesn't really make you comfortable after all, that's okay too! It's okay to say no if you decide you aren't comfortable.

Just some things to think about :)

Dez

Rivière January 26th 2021 10:36 PM
Re: If I'm ok with my friend using my vagina for herself? Does this make me a sexual?
 
The way I see it is this...

1. The only reason you're letting her do this with you is because you want to be a good friend to her. Not because you enjoy it or are even into it.
2. You may be giving her mixed signals. You say you're not aroused by her doing it, yet you let her do it.

While it's up to you what label you choose for yourself, with what you've described, I certainly wouldn't consider you bisexual. Though you may want to think about what kind of signals you may be giving your friend.

Unregistered January 27th 2021 12:31 AM
Re: If I'm ok with my friend using my vagina for herself? Does this make me a sexual?
 
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Originally Posted by Rivière (Post 1361919)
The way I see it is this...

1. The only reason you're letting her do this with you is because you want to be a good friend to her. Not because you enjoy it or are even into it.
2. You may be giving her mixed signals. You say you're not aroused by her doing it, yet you let her do it.

While it's up to you what label you choose for yourself, with what you've described, I certainly wouldn't consider you bisexual. Though you may want to think about what kind of signals you may be giving your friend.
she know I don't like it like I said she can feel that I'm very flat I have no signs of arousal down there I guess it's easier for her because the job is just to get her and then she's done. And yeah I'm not at all into it. She knows I'm straight? But my friend who knows I am not interested in her that's why we don't do oral or anything else. But I don't mind her doing that to get herself off.[/size][/color][/font][/size][/color][/font]

Unregistered January 27th 2021 12:38 AM
Re: If I'm ok with my friend using my vagina for herself? Does this make me a sexual?
 
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Originally Posted by Spoons (Post 1361906)
Hey,

I think your sexuality is how you want to describe it in this case. You said that you're not really into women and that you find vaginas gross. To me, that doesn't sound like you're really attracted to women, and may just do these things with your friend for her pleasure. Sometimes there is that one person who you want to do sexual activities with without it having to change anything. You did say that you get aroused for guys though, which is important to look at. It may be that you're straight, but do want to do sexual activities with your friend without it changing things. You can define your sexuality any way you feel the most comfortable with and nobody has the right to judge or change that for you.

You do say that you do find it kind of gross when she comes on your vagina, so I would think about whether or not you truly are comfortable with letting her touch you. I get that it's good for her that she gets pleasure out of it, but make sure that you truly are okay with it and won't regret it later, since you said it feels gross when she comes on your vagina. If you decide you don't care about the arrangement that's fine, but if you think about it and decide that it doesn't really make you comfortable after all, that's okay too! It's okay to say no if you decide you aren't comfortable.

Just some things to think about :)

Dez
I don't really want it or not want it if she didn't want to do it I don't see the point in it.I am not uncomfortable with it at all. It is ewwwy when. But my vagina is eww in itself so it's like whatever. I don't mind when she touches my vagina I don't generally touch hers though. She doesn't need me to considering the situation.[/size][/color][/font]

It isn't something I regret now because it means nothing to me honestly[/size][/color][/font]

jeff1 January 27th 2021 02:30 PM
Re: If I'm ok with my friend using my vagina for herself? Does this make me a sexual?
 
it seems to me that you just arent turned on by it.

pm me if you want to talk more!

marryjain February 13th 2021 08:28 AM
Re: If I'm ok with my friend using my vagina for herself? Does this make me a sexual?
 
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