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very confused about sexuality
[FONT=""][COLOR=""][SIZE=""]hi, my best friend recently started dating a girl from school and i am doubting my sexuality. i feel overly jealous of his girlfriend although i am really happy for him that he has found someone he loves. as a straight cis male, i really don't know if i have feelings for him or whether i'm just confused. i've never been attracted to other boys before and i am still attracted to girls. i also had a dream a few nights ago where i kissed him but it wasn't a good dream. i felt really uncomfortable as though i was violating my friend's trust. i don't really know what i want to do or how i feel. i should also probably mention that my friend is bi. obviously i'm not going to tell my friend how i feel as i don't want to disrupt a relationship where they are both very happy but i do want to know whether this is normal and if other people have had a similar experience.[/size][/color][/font]
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Re: very confused about sexuality
Just wondering, but is it possible that you're feeling jealous of his girlfriend because you feel that she is perhaps taking your friend away from you? He's your best friend and you're really close to him. Now that he has a girlfriend, you may feel like the 'thing' you have with him is going to be disrupted and that he may spend less time with you in favour of her.
How you feel doesn't necessarily have to have any homosexual-related feelings behind it. Just that you've been in this routine with your best friend and now he has a girlfriend, the routine is likely going to change. He won't have time to hang out with you or do the usual things he does with you. He may start doing these things with her as well/instead. This is bound to make a person feel jealous on some level. |
Re: very confused about sexuality
Hi!
What happens with your friend is normal. It's just a little jealousy, but again, it's a normal thing. Second, about your dream, means nothing. Also I had dreams like this, but I know what I am without problems. The dream remains a dream. As you said, also your friend is bi. Seems a joke, but it's easier for you to think about these things. |
Re: very confused about sexuality
While it is of course okay to question your sexuality, and it could be possible you are bisexual, I agree with the above posters that before worrying too much about whether you're bisexual or not you might explore the possibility that you may simply be jealous of the fact that your friend has someone new in his life that he's spending a lot of time with. It would be completely understandable, as it disrupts what used to be your usual dynamic. Before jumping to conclusions I would suggest just giving it time, both to see if you develop attraction or feelings to any other males, and for the routine to settle again with your friend, his girlfriend, and you.
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very confused about sexuality
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it’s been 2 months now and no attraction or feelings towards another male so far and i doubt it’ll ever happen ngl Sent from my iPhone 13 Pro Max using Tapatalk |
very confused about sexuality
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itâs not *just* jealousy though. i think. i dunno…i felt that before and this isn’t it (or, it is but on a whole new level). i have no idea fr Sent from my iPhone 13 Pro Max using Tapatalk |
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