how can i help my boyfriend?
 

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Uh.
Well...um...you can't really help him. I don't know much about dudes, puberty wise, cuz I'm tryin so hard to figure what's happening to me out. xD but maybe he just gets way too excited about the whole, "omg I'm actually doing sexy stuffs wit a girl omggg.." xD pssh, you know males. So he could possibly grow out of it....just a hypothesis. *shrugs*
Also, you don't have to do anything you don't want to do! Never, ever let a boy do something to you that you're not comfortable with. If you're not ready, then he needs to respect that. And if he doesn't, well...then you'll see the REAL reason he was even in a relationship.

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You may be physically ready, but emotionally? It's your decision, and it has to be your decision alone. Don't let anyone ever pressure you into sex, or losing virginity!

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Agreed! ^ and if they try to pressure you into sex leave them

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He should probably keep his on too. :bleh:

On topic though, he could practice lasting longer while masturbating. There are quite a few techniques, like thinking about something very unsexual when he feels like he is about to come. At a guess I would say he may suffer with something that a number of men suffer with, premature ejaculation. I have not really looked into this, but there are methods to help. That said, most men do not last long at all. if they are lasting more than a few minutes, they are unusual. I would love to consistently last more than a few minutes, but if you cant last more than a few seconds, that sounds like there is a problem.

looking up at the previous quote, are you sure it is not his sperm soaking your underwear? :bleh:
Seriously though, that's not true. That is not an indication of being ready to loose your virginity. You can NOT and should NOT let someone else tell you when you are ready. This applies not only to loosing your virginity, but having sex in any relationship, or in fact having sex any time. and you can even extend this to anything you do. depending on your age, there are only 2 "people"(for lack of a better word) that can tell you what to do. 1. your parents when you are young and living at home, and 2. the law. anything else is your choice. Of-course sometimes, you have to make a choice, stick to the rules of where you are or not go there, or do something - but that is still your choice, not someone else's. If someone is trying to make you do something you do not want to do (except your parents if you are a child living at home), you just say no. If they keep on insisting, walk away and ignore them, and in a relationship, they are not worth being with.

Then tell him that, and if he is not happy/ok with this, then he probably is not right for you, and you should find someone who will respect what you want, and not just think of themselves.

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I know how you feel, I do not like saying no either, and I do not like making others sad or upset, but, make sure you are happy first before you start worrying and thinking about if anyone else is happy or not. He is more likely to be happy if you are happy as well. If you are happy you will make others happy, if you smile you will make others smile (it works, even when walking around outside, I have tried it). If you are happy with everything you are doing, chances are he will be too.

doing most sexual things will feel enjoyable, esp where your undies are, a lot of what is there is designed for pleasure, and masturbation will help you find out what is the most pleasurable and enjoyable things to do down there, and you can use this to let him know what you enjoy the most. I would suggest that touching him may give him the same feelings as you have when he touches you (just make sure you have some towels :p ).

I would suggest though that you do not sit naked on his wet pants/undies, not let him get your undies wet, esp if you can feel that they are wet with them still on, and you don't let your undies touch his wet undies, as although it is unlikely, it is still poss for sperm to travel through undies, and if you can feel wet through them, something has passed through them in order that you can feel that they are wet.

on a side note, men can only store so much sperm/seaman at a time, after which they have to ejaculate before they can produce more (I am not sure if that is the right way to explain what I am trying to, but the basic idea is there), and, from personal experience, if a man ejaculates enough times in a short period of time, seaman wont come out afterwards (although I can not guarantee there wont be sperm there), and also, in my experience, he may be able to last longer the second time, and longer the 3rd etc. Just something else you could think about experimenting with.

Imagining is good, esp while masturbating. Wet dreams are even better, as long as you wake up either at the very end, or just after. They are obviously no fun if you don't remember them lol. Waiting while imagining can also make the experience even better than if you do not wait, due to the anticipation, amongst other things.

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I know that feeling :hehe: glad I am not the only one to think that. Tried rubbing it in? :p

for a short time, yes. they will start again after a short wait, how long that wait is varies between men. I must say that I have not tried measuring how long I take though. You will have to try to see. The danger is though, that he may get worn out, but experiment and see what works. All I can go on is my experiences, I do not really have any scientific or medical facts to back any of this up (I have never bothered to look though).

That is poss if you change diet, but I have not heard of it happening that way before. I heard about it changing taste if you change diet on a program I watched last year, I can not remember the program name, but I know I recorded it so I have it somewhere, if I could just remember where :hehe:. I can not remember where I read it, but I did read that you need to be careful with oral sex as well as any other kind of sex with regards to STI's and STD's as they can be passed on that way too.

What I do, just before I go to sleep I say to myself this is what time it is, and this is what time I need to wake up. it works most of the time. I also use what is known as white noise programs. They play noise on a loop, and the one I have has a feature that it can fade in over a period of time at a set time, so that you wake up slowly, and I put that on before my alarm. There are free programs, but the one I use is not a free one, although I got it as a free gift. I am not sure if I can say which I use here because of the advertising rule though. But if you are having problems waking, another thing you can try is a second, third or more alarms. Before I got this program, I set multiple alarms on my alarm clock, I think either 5 or 10 mins apart, for about 30 - 60 mins before I needed to wake up. chances are, even if you miss a few, you wont miss them all, esp if you turn the volume up loud enough. You could also try changing the alarm tone. I use the alarm on my radio most of the time, but I also use the one on my phone too if I really need to make sure I wake up. If you find yourself hitting the snooze button, move it further away from the bed, so you can not reach it. and maybe have another under your pillow by your ear? Another thing to try is a routine, If you get your body used to going to sleep at a set time and getting up at a set time each day, you will naturally do it. It does not have to be the same time each day of the week, it just has to be regular, say wake up at 8am on mondays, 7 on teusdays, 7.30 on wednesdays etc, it doesnt even need to be around the same times too, I get up at 8am on saturdays and 11 on sundays, and as long as it is the same every saturday and every sunday, your body will know the difference and be able to wake up at the right time. The advantage of this is that your body will expect to wake up, and will make sure you get through an entire sleep cycle before you wake up so you do not wake up sleepy. If you do this though, you have to make sure you stick to the schedule, esp when you are setting it up, which takes a lot of will power, but it is worth it. It is also supposed to be very good for your health and well being too, but that is just what I have heard.

Very unlikely, unless you still are when you wake up, or you are in a position that looks like you are when you wake up. If you are in the same position when you wake up as you usually are, no one will be able to tell. And even if someone can, chances are they will not say anything anyway.

It is fun to wait.

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I think that he needs to practice this. I've done a bit of sex-ed research and premature ejaculation is pretty easy to fix. I don't have time to explain the details, but I recommend the Laci Green video "2 Minute Sex???" Which is incredibly useful. On a more important note, don't have sex unless you feel ready!!! If you are unprepared, or just don't want to you shouldn't let him pressure you into it. I guess that's all.

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