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University and boyfriend?

I currently go to a community college and my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. In fact, we both go to a community college (a local college). I'm deciding on go to a University to finish my bachelor's degree. That means I'll be entering the dorm life and become 2 and half hours away from everyone and especially my bf. Granted, there are other satellite campuses for this uni, but my major is only at the main campus.

I want him to come with me, but he's been talking about potentially breaking apart when I move to uni. I know we have a lot of love for each other. He's scared on what's going to happen with our relationship. I want us to experience life without living with our parents even if it's at a uni. It IS possible to move to this uni because the credits easily transfer to this uni even if he's not done at the community college. I'm scared too with all the change, but the last thing I want to do is break apart from each other. He doesn't want to either, but doesn't want to be the reason to hold me back from pursuing more education.

I don't even know how to think right now. It's a soft spot for both of us and I just want more options to keep our relationship stable. I'd like to think that if we both really loved each other, we shouldn't have to break up. I don't want to find someone else. We are two peas in a pod. I'm applying next summer/fall of 2015. I'm 20 and he's 22 almost 23 if that means anything.

Please help. >.<

Re: University and boyfriend?

Hey Sam

Same happened to me last year. I'm in UNI right now .. me and my gf have been dating for 4 years , i moved 2 moths ago from my hometown which is also 2 hours drive from Uni. In the beginning i tough it would be a lot more difficult but i got use to it and so did she , i see her on weekends now and than and since you have a long relationship too , i think it only depends of you and him to keep your relationship.
You might be scared to change , but that is what life is all about . I wish you the best of luck!

Re: University and boyfriend?

Real love doesn't know what distance is. Yes, this will be difficult. It will definitely be a big test on the strength of your relationship; but, if you really love and trust one another, especially after all this time, you'll make it through. I've known a lot of people who were able to make distance relationships work just fine, there's no reason you should have to break up. My fiancé left for his boot camp and A-school, and saying goodbye to him as he left was the hardest thing I've ever done. But, months later, here I am patiently waiting and knowing he'll be home in time.

If this is what you want to do, do it. Pursue your education and work hard to make a good life for yourself. But like I said before, there's no reason you can't go live in this dorm and still have a relationship with your boyfriend.

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Your relationship will deteriorate. Break up before its to late.

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Is a long distance relationship not an option? The university is only a few hours away. My boyfriend and I did two years of a six hour plane ride away, and currently are 90 minutes apart. It's possible; it sucks, but distance does not have to mean the end of a relationship, and forcing him to move or attend a university he may not be ready for may not be the best option. Why isn't long-distance currently on the plate for you two?