My girlfriend hasn't had period in months
 

Hello,
So, my girlfriend just told me that she hasn't had her period in months and we didn't use protection. I don't know what to do I am not ready for a kid. Should I tell my parents or wait for her to find out. What should I do? This is scary to me.

Re: My girlfriend hasn't had period in months
 

Re: My girlfriend hasn't had period in months
 

Take the test. But if she's pregnant, theres nothing you can do, so you might as well tell them.

Re: My girlfriend hasn't had period in months
 

Re: My girlfriend hasn't had period in months
 

Re: My girlfriend hasn't had period in months
 

Hey there,
The best thing you can do is be supportive of your girlfriend and encourage her to take a pregnancy test. At least once a test has been done you can start to think of your options. There can be other reasons why your girlfriend isn't having her periods.
If your girlfriend you both have to decide whether you're ready to be parents and if you could cope with a baby.

Best of luck,
Paige

Re: My girlfriend hasn't had period in months
 

She's pregnant

Re: My girlfriend hasn't had period in months
 

Re: My girlfriend hasn't had period in months
 

That sounds like a tough situation... Does she want the baby? You could always suggest abortion, she may be up for that. Tell your girlfriend how you feel about the baby, wether you're ready for this or not, but respect her decision as well.

I hope this works out!

Skye

Re: My girlfriend hasn't had period in months
 

Hey there,

Speak to your girlfriend and see what she wants to do, ultimately it is her body and her decision but it is one that is going to affect both of your lives for a long time. You have to think about whether you are financially able to have a baby. Do either of you have jobs, do you have savings or do either of you have parents that are able to support the two of you and a baby until you are both on your feet?

As well as financial concerns you both have to think about whether you are ready for the responsibility of having a baby?
Consider speaking to your parents and your girlfriend's parents and see what they think the two of you should do. Ultimately it is both of your decisions, but it's good to have help as it is a decision that is going to be difficult to make.

I wish you the best of luck,
Paige

Re: My girlfriend hasn't had period in months
 

She doesn't want to give the baby up. My parents are going to help us out I think. Last night her dad kicked her out of her house so she is a bit uneasy. We did end up in the ER last time since she was severely suicidal from all that's going on.

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Re: My girlfriend hasn't had period in months
 

I am 16 and she is 14 so no not really able to move into a house of our own yet and neither of us have jobs during the school year. During the summer I life guarded last year but don't know if I will do that again this year.

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I'm sorry to hear that you are in a tough situation. The most important thing you can do is be there to support your girlfriend during this difficult time, and to be sure you have resources you can turn to for support, too. You two don't have to do this on your own.

While it's great that your parents are willing to help out with the baby, in the end it's your baby, and you are the ones who need to be responsible for it. That means actively working to be as independent as possible to provide a healthy, stable life for your child. Unfortunately at your ages, especially your girlfriend's age, you are quite limited in what you can do to achieve financial and living independence, but there are steps you can take.

I suggest you do all you can in your power to procure a job this summer and start saving up. Work on building a resume; don't be afraid to ask for help if you need it. Put out applications every day. Check back in with places a couple days after you apply to ask them if they have received your resume by phone, if not in person, and let them know you are excited about that job opportunity. Even though you're just looking to make some money, making it sound like you couldn't be more stoked about being a cashier at a fast food restaurant, or on the janitorial staff at an office building, or whatever job it is you apply for.

It's also imperative that both you and your girlfriend complete your education. Staying in school while caring for an infant may be difficult, but in the long run you will be better able to provide a secure future for your child if you both have high school diplomas.

It won't be easy, but with proper resources, support, and motivation the two of you can actively work towards building a loving, stable, and secure future for your child. It may not happen all at once, but by continuing to take small steps forward you can achieve it.

Re: My girlfriend hasn't had period in months
 

Re: My girlfriend hasn't had period in months
 

I will start look when summer gets closer but can't get one right now since I have school and that's like a job itself to me at the moment.

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If I were you, I would begin evaluating my life very carefully. What job do you want to do? What training would it require? Is there another job that you could get training for in the meantime to help earn a better wage so you could help take care of a child?


If there is a vocational school near you, I would look into it and see what programs they offer. Some people have taken college classes such as college algebra, composition, etc to knock out the general education classes for their degrees while taking vocational classes. A lot of schools offer a variety of classes that will pay decently once you graduate from school. The school near me offered a variety of programs such EMT, construction, dental assistant, pharmacy tech, etc.


Another option after high school may involve job corps which can help provide training for younger people. The jobs they offer vary from location to location though.


Raising a kid is tough. Being able to afford a kid is very tough. One thing I would try to avoid is adding on the debt of college without a clear idea of what job you want to do. A lot of my friends are working jobs that do not require their degree. One girl is working a job that many people without college degrees work.

Re: My girlfriend hasn't had period in months
 

Thanks for the advice. Right now I'm just going to look at something I can do at the moment and focus on taking care of Sophia.