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Hi I'm 14 and I just started dating this boy who's a grade below me and is 13. I like him alot and we were hanging out the other day and he was in his shorts but the thing is even though he's 13 he said I was cute and he started to get a boner that actually stuck out by his knee.. I was shocked and he kept saying how cute I was and how big my boobs were (they are pretty big for my age idk why) and he took off his pants and his penis was MASSIVE.. I haven't seen anything like it. He sat their jerking it off until it got so long he had to use both hands and I was pretty much speechless. It wasn't very thick but it was sooo fing long. Literally if I had to guess I'd put it over 10 inches. I have to admit I am REALLY turned on by it but I'm worried for a couple of reasons. First we're so young but his dick is so big. Could this be a health problem for him? Second I have no idea how the hell I would fit that thing inside me if we were to have sex. He asked me if I wanted to do it but I told him not right now.
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This sounds more like a fantasy more than REAL LIFE.
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It would definitely be unusual for a guys penis to be that large. Contrary to Angela's response, I don't think it is every girls fantasy for a guy to have literally the hugest penis possible, even in porn the guys only tend to be 9 inches at the biggest (they're chefs not all sporting 12 inches cause #unrealistic). It's not that I have a problem with being attracted to the rare gigantic unicorn penis, but I'm just trying to let you know it's ok if you're feeling 2 parts turned on and 8 parts scared.
The reality is that, yes, he could have a health problem causing his genitals to be larger than usual. One example being that he could have a hormonal imbalance (eg testosterone). Bringing that up could be awkward, but if you're worried, you could approach the subject with sensitivity and caution. You don't want to make him insecure of course, so be careful if you bring up the concern. Also, if you guys have sex, he'll have to be careful. But keep in mind that you guys are so, so young and really shouldn't be having sex this young any how. Not that it's my place to tell you when or anything, but if you're not ready, there's no harm in waiting a few years... |
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Also 2 parts turned on and 8 parts scared is really the best way to put it. He was pressuring me for sex and I definitely wanted it but could not imagine handling that thing. |
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Hey there,
As one of the previous users said, it's definitely possible that there is some sort of health issue causing his genitals to be larger than what is considered normal, especially at such a young age. It could be a very sensitive topic to bring up, so I'd recommend waiting to talk to him about it until a certain level of comfort is established between the two of you to avoid causing embarrassment or awkwardness. If your boyfriend is trying to pressure you to have sex, that's definitely not okay. It might be a good idea for you to sit him down ASAP and have a discussion about what your boundaries are. Whether you're only okay with kissing right now or are comfortable with some parts of sex but aren't ready for others, it's important to make sure that the two of you are on the same page. Also, remember that your boundaries can be changed at any time. If you're okay with something now but change your mind about it later, that's perfectly fine. It's just something that you need to communicate. If you do decide that you want to have sex with him, have a talk with him about your concerns regarding the size of his penis and the pain that it may cause for you. It might be a good idea to try using lube the first time in order to make it a little bit easier for both of you. I'd also recommend having him go very slowly at first until you get comfortable with the size. Also, it's not necessary for him to put his entire penis inside you, so make sure neither one of you try to force that to happen if it's causing too much discomfort for you. Again, communication is key here, so let him know if something hurts or if you need him to slow down/back off for a while. Take care, Sammi |
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Also i'll admit i was the one teasing at first kind of pressuring for sex i even grabbed his crotch while we were kissing but then i saw how big it got and backed off. It turned me on even more but like i said i have no idea how we will do it i guess lube and practice :nosweat: im still really scared though |
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Get yourself some birth control hon.
No sex without birth control. If you don't want to get the birth control then make him go get it. If he doesn't want to get the birth control then his penis is bigger than his brain and he's not ready for sex yet. You can still have fun with him, but no penis in the vagina until one of you get some birth control. ;) |
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Let him know you are feeling anxious and communicate. Communication is so important. He'll probably feel bad if you have sex and then you tell him it hurt because of his penis. But if you aren't ready to take that extra step, then let him know. You need to set up your own personal boundaries and let your boyfriend know what you are and are not okay with.
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Look for some MAGNUM XL condoms.
You can also look on Amazon.com for this book: How to Live with a Huge Penis: Advice, Meditations, and Wisdom for Men Who Have Too Much by Jacob, Dr. Richard, & Thomas, Rev. Owen |
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Birth control doesn't just include condoms, it also includes the pill and many other things, and also remember you are only 14 and he is 13 so there is no rush for either of you to have sex currently as you are probably both underage and it is therefore illegal in most places depending on where you live. Just something to consider.
Other than that, like Jenna said, communicate. If you have concerns or thoughts then tell them to him so he's aware. Nothing can really go anywhere if you don't communicate. |
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I think when the other person mentioned birth control, they meant the pill. It's not a bad idea actually. Even if you don't have sex for years to come, it's totally legit to use the pill for other reasons (eg acne , cramps, etc). Before you do anything, I'd suggest learning more about birth control and other things related to sex because if I have to have one more conversation about how X or Y cannot lead to pregnancy, needless to say, I think there is something seriously wrong with sex education in schools, especially in the US, if people have to educate themselves at the end of the day.
If I were you, even if you don't talk about the penis issue, you can bring up your fears about sex hurting because of it. It might be a way to bring it up and see if he's ever worried about it too (eg "hey BF, I'm just worried that since you're so big it'll really hurt if we ever have sex" |
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also i texted him and asked him why his penis was so big and that their might be a health problem. he said he had been doing some penis growth exercise since he was younger and that his penis also started growing alot since he hit puberty 2 years ago. he said he last measured it at 9 and a half inches *) he didnt seem concerned but i do.. i mean is there any health problem that can come from that? especially the penis growth thing he was talking about ? |
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There's no such thing as penis growth exercises. That is a myth; it doesn't actually work. If your boyfriend is truly 9.5 inches that's rather large, especially for a thirteen-yaer-old, but it doesn't necessarily mean there is a health problem. It's possible there is one, but he may just be really well endowed.
I would also suggest starting some sort of birth control if you are interested in having sex. It;s very important to do your best to prevent pregnancy. If you're worried about his size I would suggest talking to him about going slowly and using lube. Remember, it's all about your comfort, and he doesn't have to be all the way inside of you for sex to feel good for both of you. I also want to remind you that you should't have sex unless YOU want to. If you feel ready that's fine, but don't let him pressure you into sexual activities you don't want to participate in. IF he's not respecting your boundaries that's a sign of an unhealthy relationship and you need to talk to him. |
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Jordan is right, 9.5 inches is very large but not necessarily at the point where it's necessarily a hormonal thing, if it doesn't keep getting larger throughout the rest of puberty, it might just be what it is -- but he should keep an eye on it because if it is a hormonal imbalance causing it, he'll want to get it checked out. Other signs could be unusual hair growth for his age and stuff (e.g. 13 year olds don't really have much facial hair but if he did???) Who knows, might be nothing.
Also, yeahhhhhh.... those exercises are a bunch of boloney. If you're a man, you're going to get whatever size of penis you get, doing curls but with your junk isn't suddenly going to make you large like a porn star and most of the supplements aren't going to make a difference either. As for accessing birth control, you can solve this by finding a planned parenthood or other local health unit. They typically offer free or subsidized birth control (I've had friends get it for $5 or so). There will be a public health nurse there who can educate you about the best options for you. As it is subsidized, they won't need insurance -- not where I live and I think the US is mostly the same in this small aspect. |
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At your age you're thinking of having sex already? Not now.
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Also I don't know of any planned parenthood things around me and even if I did I would need my parents to take me there and there pretty strict. We could get condoms but I'm not sure if they work on him.. he can fit his penis in them but it only covers like half of his dick *) do they make really long condoms ? Because his penis isn't really think it's just really really long :nosweat: |
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Again, your boyfriend's penis exercises did not increase the size of his penis. That's simply not true. If he wants to think that that's fine, but you might want to wonder why he potentially thinks the size of his manhood affects his masculinity. Unfortunately society has taught men that bigger is better when that's not really the case, and many men feel inferior when they have a smaller penis, hence the advertising for things like pills and and "exercises" that can make a man's penis bigger. But I'm getting off topic.
A condom can fit over an entire fist and forearm without breaking. It will fit your boyfriend's penis. I suggest looking for information for how to properly apply a condom to a man's penis. You might want to ask Coffee. for some resources; she's a sex educator and she could probably give you better information than I could. I assure you, it will fit. If you're really worried, there is such a thing as a female condom that you could use. It's really, REALLY advisable you be on some other form of contraception than using condoms. While they definitely are effective at preventing pregnancy (and the only form of protection that prevents transmission of sexually transmitted infections), the risk of pregnancy is greater than if you are on the pill or some other form of birth control. In the end, it's your body, so it's up to you and you alone. For resources I know of, I suggest researching sexplanations on youtube. She has some videos that give some good information on birth control methods (including footage of her rolling a male condom over her whole head). Try searching the video "sex shields." It may be of use. Good luck and PM me if you need anything else. |
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Condoms are really long. Ask someone to get you some and play with them. Become familiar with them. (You'll eventually need to become familiar with them anyway.)
Think of everyone you know. Quite likely there's someone who would be willing to get you some condoms. Just because you have condoms doesn't mean you're going to have sex. |
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Just have some protection and birth control pills
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Also where can you find a female condom? |
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don't ask why I kn ow this, but female condoms are usually availiable at your local walgreens or supermarket. Honestly, if you are going to have sex, start small(like a blowjobor a bewbjob, and work your way up to sex over time, like a few weeks. I am 14, and a guy, so I see where your boyfreind is coming from. I have only gotten a blowjob, and none of my freinds (exept for 2 of them) have gotten laid. those two are also juniors in highschool. start small. it is ussually better than going all the way. how long have you been dating?
best of luck, -Keagan #gettingluckythisweekend! |
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btw, a large condom would work for ur bf. they are so stretchy, his peni5 would fit. I know. i fit a medium with a 8 inch b0n3r. he will easily fit a large. I don't know how to help you more, because my gf told me that we're doing it. you should talk to him about it first. let him play with other things first, and as I said earlier, go slow. I had a freind who went to fast, and now, he cant hold a meaningful relationship. he goes with people just for sex, and he only holds relationships for a week or two. You should try to go slow and set boundaries. if you set boundaries, let him go only as far as the line. if he goes over, tell him to stop. gradually move the line farther, so you can last as a couple for a year or 2. that is what I did, and my girlfreind and I have been together for over a year and a half.
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Here are some links that provide that information. Link1 Link 2 Link 3 Also, to answer the second part of your question. Planned parenthood says planned parenthood and drug stores. You could also look at pills, from Planned parenthood, drug stores or health centers. Hope this helps |
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