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carmenwerners

July 10th 2017 04:46 PM

Strange behaviour of my boyfriend

He is always texting with someone on his iphone. He never lets me touch his phone. Is there any way to spy on his phone and find out what is he hiding from me?

Ennui.

July 10th 2017 05:15 PM

Re: Strange behaviour of my boyfriend

Before you go that route I would try talking to him. If he catches you trying to get into his phone or spying, he may lose a lot of trust in you, which is not the way to go. Instead maybe you can sit down with him somewhere private on a day when he is in a relatively good mood, and try to explain to him why his behavior is concerning to you? Try to use I statements such as "I feel," rather than accusing, such as "You always..."

DeletedAccount71

July 12th 2017 01:59 AM

Re: Strange behaviour of my boyfriend

Spying is never the way to go. Relationships are built on trust. If your trust in your boyfriend is faltering then your relationship is faltering. I agree with Dez: before you try and spy your boyfriend or get into his phone you should have an honest and direct talk with him, face-to-face. I also agree with the importance of claiming your thoughts and feelings using "I" statements, such as "I feel..." instead of "You make me feel/think..."

Hope this works. If you need more advice feel free to PM me.

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