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Am I wrong for being a little upset?

[FONT=""][COLOR=""][SIZE=""][FONT=""][COLOR=""][SIZE=""]Hey guys. Lately my boyfriend and I have been having kind of a lot of issues as far as getting into arguments. We’ve been together for three years and both love each other and want everything to work out. Yesterday I borrowed his phone as mine wasn’t working because I wanted to see what my Facebook profile bio had open to my friends so I was trying to go to my profile. But as I went to search my name I noticed a girl he has been looking up who’s about our age and she’s really pretty by what I saw. I noticed that it said she worked where he works. I kind of asked him who it was and he told me it’s a girl he works with and when I asked why he was looking her up he just kind of shrugged and said he just wanted to look her up and that they get along really well. I didn’t say anything more on the matter, but for some reason it’s just bothering me a lot, particularly because I feel like he mentions this girl a lot. And I just feel like it he’s at home thinking about her enough to look her up it just rubs me the wrong way. Am I wrong for feeling a little uneasy? I think with all of the fighting I’m just on edge as it is.[/size][/color][/font][/size][/color][/font]

Re: Am I wrong for being a little upset?

[FONT=""][COLOR=""][SIZE=""]He also told me girls are constantly adding him from work and always trying to get his Snap, and he just shrugged and told me it’s no big deal. I’m just wondering if it’s wrong for me to feel uneasy, i didn’t want to push it any further because I didn’t want a fight.[/size][/color][/font]

Re: Am I wrong for being a little upset?

I don't think you're wrong for feeling uneasy. You're obviously feeling insecure and his lack of a suitable response hasn't helped. In fact it probably made things worse for you. While the situation may be no big deal to him, it is to you. Surely he must understand that?

With all of that said, I think it's good that he was willing to hand you his phone. If he had anything to hide, surely he would have opted not to let you? Or hesitate and try and spend time trying to hide something from you first?

Overall, it may be a good idea to try and chat to your boyfriend about how you're feeling. I understand you may not want an argument with him, but I don't think it'd be wrong for you to let him know how the situation is currently making you feel and that you're not sure how to progress. Though his words may not be of much reassurance even if he tries to, the fact that you've been open with how you feel is a good start. :)