TeenHelp - Triggering: Is he flirting with me, am I in danger?

TeenHelp (http://www.teenhelp.org/forums/)

- Relationships and Dating (http://www.teenhelp.org/forums/f9-relationships-dating/)

- - Triggering: Is he flirting with me, am I in danger? (http://www.teenhelp.org/forums/f9-relationships-dating/t166103-he-flirting-me-am-i-danger/)

Unregistered

November 7th 2025 04:52 PM

Is he flirting with me, am I in danger?

[FONT=""][COLOR=""][SIZE=""][FONT=""][COLOR=""][SIZE=""]Hello everyone ^^

I'm sixteen, and I've recently started to officially work. I mainly do animation for kids. It can be kinda stressing and it's a responsibility job, that's why we have to be a close team and communicate a lot.
That's where I met a certain co-worker with over 30 years of experience, who's like a father to me. Pretty tactile, reassuring, he was always the elder, the reference for the rest of us.
After the end of the season, we continued to exchange on the phone, but for reasons other than work.
He's still really nice and it's been very fun. Until he started to say some pretty corny things, expect answers very soon, compliment me a lot, want to voice call...
I've been groomed before and so I'm very cautious. But I struggle a lot with talking an could possibly miss something.

Is he flirting with me ? Or is he good ? What do I do ??[/size][/color][/font][/size][/color][/font]

¯|_(ツ)_|¯

November 8th 2025 01:50 AM

Re: Is he flirting with me, am I in danger?

It does seem pretty sketchy that someone so much older than you (or someone in general) is talking to you outside of work and doing things like expecting you to answer quickly. I’d see some strong boundaries with him if you still wish to talk to him, such as letting him know not to say certain things and also not to expect replies right away. Don’t accept video calls if you don’t want to. I’d consider distancing yourself from this coworker though and trusting your gut. Sometimes we have an instinct that something isn’t right and we should follow the instinct. It doesn’t mean you’re a bad person if you communicate solely about work related things. If he continues you can go to your manager or boss so the the situation can be dealt with by an adult who is higher up. Document anything he says or does that’s sketchy and when it happens as well in case the coworker escalates.

Mindfulness.

November 8th 2025 05:56 AM

Re: Is he flirting with me, am I in danger?

Hello there,

My advice would be to set some boundaries between you and your co-worker. Let him know that he shouldn't expect a quick response from you or have to video call if you don't feel comfortable in doing that. It is concerning as he is so much older than you and you are still classified as a minor, so he can get into a lot of trouble if he is grooming you.

I would suggest speaking to your manager and parents about what is happening so they will be able to help you speak to your co-worker about setting boundaries and keeping you safe.

I hope this helped and if you ever need anything, you can always inbox me.

All times are GMT. The time now is 03:27 PM.