[Chris]

First off, Welcome to TeenHelp.

I'm really sorry to hear about the situation you are in. I too, have dealt with emotionally draining parents that fight constantly. It obviously sounds like you mom is not in a good place right now. I have a few different things you could do. First, you can tell her how you feel. While I know you may be afraid of the outcome, it is very important that you communicate your feelings/thoughts about the situation to your mother. Tell her you are emotionally drained, and it is starting to affect many different aspects of your life. You can even write her a letter if that makes you feel any better. Point is: communicate your feelings.

If after that nothing improves, thats when you draw the line. At that point, unless your mom becomes abusive in other ways (IE: physical) there isn't much else you can do for her (like force her into getting help). Instead, you need to help yourself. Seek out help from a school counselor, and tell him/her whats going on. Join some clubs/sports/organizations to get you out of the house. Focus on building up your emotional, psychical and mental wellbeing. Take care of yourself.

Sometimes we can't control others (IE: your mom), and in cases like that, you can't do much else other than try to get her help, and if she rejects it, then finding help yourself (to manage YOUR personal wellbeing).

So stay strong, keep your head up, and push forward!


Best wishes,
Chris