[Lillibette]

Hi! I'm married to a trans woman. And I second the advice above. There are so many ways to have sexual activity that don't involve using the parts that trigger her dysphoria. It might take some finagling around with everything, but there are definitely ways. All I can suggest is communicating with her about what she likes and doesn't like, and what she'd prefer doing (and that you'd be happy doing, too), basically.