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Originally Posted by Cj14

I think maybe misconduct seems like a better term to me. For what happened.

I don't feel like I'm in denial I know I am not interested in 11 years old girls or boys. So I guess that is odd but on my half of the situation I just don't really feel it negatively affected me.

Then you could use the word misconduct for as long as you are comfortable with it.

As someone else said, not feeling like you were negatively impacted can be a good thing. Bear in mind that how you feel can change over time, however.

Earlier you asked if one of the laws someone mentioned to you could be why you don't feel like it was rape. That could be part of it, but I think some of it has to do with how you feel about your experience. A law can define your experience as one thing, but you may define it as something different based on how you feel.

I hope you continue to look at this in a way that makes you feel most comfortable and I wish you the best.