[Celyn]

How are things with your former counsellor?

It is very tricky to adjust to seeing someone outside of the professional setting and wondering how to treat them, where the boundaries are etc., and for this reason many professionals try to avoid this from happening. However, there is nothing wrong with updating your counsellor on your life.

Generally, I'd address her the same way as you did when in school as it shows respect. While it can seem very tempting to tell her everything, you want to make sure that you don't accidentally slip into treating her as if she still was your counsellor, as that can be one-sided. She was your counsellor and there will always be that slightly uneven dynamic, but it may not be appropriate to treat her as if she still was your counsellor. Perhaps you can try to strike a happy medium- giving an overview of your life, while showing some interest in her life (How's life? How's things? etc) and seeing where that goes.

If you felt comfortable enough, you could approach her about this. Ask her if she has a preference for how to address her, any boundaries that she might want to have in place etc.