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Do you have a personal code, or a type of rule for yourself that you refuse to break?

My brother met a girl online a few weeks ago and already they decided to declare they were in a relationship, just 3 weeks after talking to one another online. She lives in the south of England and he lives in the North. They both met face to face and seem quite happy together. However, my brother admitted to my family that he signed up for a dating site 'for something to do' and wasn't expecting anything from it. Based on the conversation my mum apparently had with him, it comes across like he's with her out of convenience and solely because he was lonely. She seems super into him, whereas he's less so into her.

It reminded me that I will never be that kind of person. I can't say it's good or bad the way my brother behaves. However, I have a personal code where, no matter how lonely or bad I feel, I refuse to be with someone just for the sake of not being alone. Especially if that person is interested in me where as I'm not so much interested in them. Being in a relationship with that person would feel like I'm using them, and that to me is a horrible thing to do. If I want to be in a relationship with them, I prefer to develop a meaningful relationship with them by starting out as friends first, getting to know them, and then if feelings develop, go from there.

It doesn't necessarily have to involve relationships, but what are some of your rules, or codes that you have and refuse to overstep?