View Single Post
  (#2 (permalink)) Old
Ennui. Offline
Living the dream.

TeenHelp Veteran
*************
 
Ennui.'s Avatar
 
Name: Dez
Age: 27
Gender: ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Pronouns: She/They
Location: Connecticut, USA

Posts: 20,021
Points: 172,204, Level: 59
Points: 172,204, Level: 59 Points: 172,204, Level: 59 Points: 172,204, Level: 59
Blog Entries: 171
Join Date: November 16th 2010

Re: My boyfriend can’t stay hard - September 1st 2021, 04:03 PM

Hi,

I first of all want to say that this is not something you have to be embarrassed about! Neither of you are alone in this and there are a lot of people who have had similar experiences.

If it is performance anxiety, can you ask him if there is anything you are able to do to help him out with it? For example, do you two do any foreplay before sex, that may be able to help him become more aroused? Is there anything he thinks you can say to him during sex that may improve his confidence? Perhaps if he is worried that he isn't satisfying you, you can either reassure him that he is doing fine or talk to him about trying different positions that both of you may enjoy more? Communicate, even during sex, to say what is feeling good. Trying new things may help get both of you reinvigorated.

It may also help if he tries to assess what his thoughts, feelings, and actions are during sex before he loses his hardness and then when he stops being hard. What types of things are going through his mind? Is he feeling any anxiety? Is it a certain position he's trying? Basically, he can try and pinpoint where things are starting to happen.

While I can't go into detail, there are also ways to be intimate and give pleasure without the traditional penis-in-vagina sex. It's something you may want to look up for more information.

I hope this helps, even a little.

Best of luck,
Dez


Do you ever get a little bit tired of life
Like you're not really happy but you don't wanna die
Like you're hanging by a thread but you gotta survive
'Cause you gotta survive