People have a way of getting (or trying to) get what they want
Especially men
And especially men who are only after one thing
I would consider both incidents rape as you said no
I cannot see a reason of wanting to meet up with someone you met online
You do not really know them and you don't know what they are capable of
It is important to always bring someone you trust with you when you meet up with people from online
I would definitely say that you need to talk to someone you feel comfortable talking about this with