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Question Dating someone older. Just need some advice. - June 23rd 2012, 06:35 PM

Any help at all would be appreciated! Comments, advice, perspectives...?

I'm in a really tricky situation and I just don't know what to do right now in the present, and also long term. I'm afraid if I just let it be any longer it'll just get worse.

Basically, I started seeing this guy back in October who I worked with - I'm 18 and he's 24. We dated casually for about 6 months (only sleeping together twice, in-the-moment sort of things) and then things started getting serious. Now we're in a serious relationship and very in love and we're so happy together. The problem is, while his friends and family accept me and our relationship just fine, NO ONE in my life does.

My parents have known about us since our very first date and my mom has been as supportive as she could be, but otherwise I really have no one. I've lost all my high school friends and the few that didn't totally ditch me just kind of keep their distance. I have no one I can really talk to and my dad hates me for it, says he's embarrassed and doesn't want anyone to know.

The thing is, I've always been the perfect child to my parents - straight A's in all AP classes, working my ass off to get an amazing SAT score, working when I could to help contribute, getting several scholarships and even a full ride to one school, and for the most part have following all their rules, not really partying and taking care of my siblings when they needed me. Now I do one thing that doesn't seem to fit the "perfect child mold", even though it makes me so happy and doesn't hurt anyone, and they flip the shit and no longer trust me. I just feel so alone and have no idea what to do.

On top of all that, now they're moving 6 hours away at the end of July, a month before I move into my dorm, and I have to decide if I'm going with them for the month or going to stay in the area with a family friend who will be instilling Nazi-like rules. If I stay, I could see me boyfriend occasionally, like a couple hours a week. If I move, probably not at all until I go to college and start visiting. Either way though it'll probably be a very miserable, lonely month. Help.