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rape:blame myself

its been over a year since i was raped over 25 times by the same person and yet i cant let it go i feel like it was me who caused it and its been 6 months since another boy i was with raped me and about 4 since the last boy raped me is being raped my fault did i provoke it was it me trying to make my self feel better:'(

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Im soo sorry!!! No Don't ever think it was your fault, because it was not!!! You had nothing to do with it. Don't blame yourself! It's theirs. They are very sick to do this. In fact they should be in prison. What I think you should do is tell someone you trust and go to the police. The police will capture these sick people to make sure they never do this to a young girl again! What they did to you was horrible. No one should have to deal with this pain. If you ever need someone to talk to email me or PM me!

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Hey there,

I'm so sorry this has happened to you. :hug: Rape is never the victim's fault, no matter what. It doesn't come down to what you were wearing, or what you were drinking, or if you had pepperspray. These men had no right to harm you, and I am so sorry you have been dealing with these feelings for so long.

Have you been seeing a counselor or therapist about these feelings?

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Hi there.

I am really sorry to hear about what has been going on for you. It sounds like you have been through a really hard time but I think its brilliant that you've come to us here for some support.

What happened to you is not your fault in anyway. Nothing you did or nothing you said, caused you to be raped. You didn't ask for it nor did you want it and I think its time you started to accept what has happened to help you understand this is not your fault. Its completely understandable why you are feeling this way but you have done nothing wrong to be blamed for.

Are you getting any help to help you cope with what has been happening and how you are feeling? If you are, do you feel like it is helping you? If you aren't, do you think getting help is something you might benefit from? Its worth thinking about :)

Remember you are not on your own. We're always here to help and support you as much as we can.

Jessie

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Hey darlin'; I should give ya a warnin before you read this. I am country so my wordin might confuse you. I'll try my best but it's hard sometimes.

I am dearly sorry about you gettin' raped. It happened to me too if it makes ya feel better. So from personal experience I'm gonna lay it down straight for ya. Some (most it seems) men think if a woman is dressed in a revealing way she is easy. Some think if she acts helpless she is easy. If you are the sheltered schoolgirl, the partying teen, irresponsible, gone on a lotta dates...lots of things can trigger a mans thought of this girl is easy. I think its stupid that ANY man would think that. But darlin' lemme tell ya it ain't your fault that you got raped. Its that sick perv who raped you who is at fault.

Some ways you can prevent that is take some defense classes. Go down to the police station and ask for information on some defense classes. Most stations that I know of offer defense classes. Take a few of those, or if ya have some country friends ask them from some defense help. If they see ya takin some defense classes most men will leave ya alone. Try carryin yourself with a "Dont mess with me" attitude. I carry a knife with me in my boot, its hooked to an ankle holster. It is not illegal to carry one with ya in public but is if you walk into school. It is also not illegal to stab him in a place that wont kill him for example; hand, foot, calf, lower arm. Try to avoid the thigh, upper arm, neck and torso. Because any of those places have large veins which if cut could cause him to bleed out.

But darlin you are not at fault for what happened. This guy gone and did somethin stupid. And if you are up for it you could press charges. But its all up to you honey.

If you need someone to talk to I'm here, I know what rape feels like. It takes a toll on ya, just keep your head up and try to make your life fun.