TeenHelp - Missing my mom

TeenHelp (http://www.teenhelp.org/forums/)

- Death, Grieving and Coping With Loss (http://www.teenhelp.org/forums/f19-death-grieving-coping-loss/)

- - Missing my mom (http://www.teenhelp.org/forums/f19-death-grieving-coping-loss/t163176-missing-my-mom/)

So my mom passed at begining of june and we just had her memorial service 2 weeks ago. Im really missing her and my dad and me fight constantly even tho we dont live together it still is draining. Mom was only one who could control are fights so now im lost and i just want a hug and shes not here yo give it and i so just want to join her its all i been thinking about since she passed. Im supposed to visit her brother next week in philly but tho im excited i feel like canceling cause im afraid ill break down while there.

Re: Missing my mom

I know what it feels. Only time will cure it but scars are too deep sometimes...
Hope you're strong enough to get over this situation :(

Re: Missing my mom

Quote:

Originally Posted by Slytherin21 (Post 1380944)

So my mom passed at begining of june and we just had her memorial service 2 weeks ago. Im really missing her and my dad and me fight constantly even tho we dont live together it still is draining. Mom was only one who could control are fights so now im lost and i just want a hug and shes not here yo give it and i so just want to join her its all i been thinking about since she passed. Im supposed to visit her brother next week in philly but tho im excited i feel like canceling cause im afraid ill break down while there.

Hi Destiny, I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. Do you think it's possible to limit interaction with your dad, especially since it's causing you so much stress. You might be thinking "well, it's what Mom would've wanted" but I don't think she would want to see you so upset either. I seriously doubt she'd be super thrilled knowing you were thinking and feeling this way. I also don't think you should cancel the trip to visit her brother; and who cares if you break down? You're human, and sadness is a natural human emotion. Who knows, maybe your uncle needs someone to talk to as well, since it sounds like he lives far from you and your family.

Re: Missing my mom

Hi there,

I am so sorry to hear about your mom. I can't imagine how you must be feeling. If you ever need to talk, my inbox is always open. :hug:

Re: Missing my mom

I'm really sorry to hear about your mom. It doesn't help that you and your dad are fighting and yet it was always your mom that could control the fights. Depending on how you feel right now, you could either try to let go of whatever it is that you and your dad are fighting about (in the sense of you are both grieving and now is perhaps a time to grieve and take time for yourself rather than fight) or try to think of what your mom would say or do in this situation.

It's really hard when your mom isn't around anymore but you are her daughter, so she is still a part of you and always will be.

I think it might still be worth going to philly to visit her brother. Even if you break down, it's okay. It might help you to bond with her brother and remember all the good times you had with your mom. But if you don't feel up to it, I'm sure he would understand.