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Ugh -.-
Im only 14, but all the other girls i know have had many serious relationships, and a ton of people my age, like my mates and stuff have lost their virginity. when all i have had is two VERY short lasting boyfriends, literally 13 days, then 4 days. I havnt gone further than kissing a guy, and ugh.
I just feel so lonely, i really want a guy to just love me and be with me, but im useless with guys and no one likes me >.<
So, i feel like a reject
Is it weird for me to not have had a relationship? since i am in year 10 now (i dont know what grade that is in america xD) and everyone else like i said has had serious boyfriends and stuff ._.

Even though some of friends have gone that far in their relationships, don't feel like you have to match up to them. In the grand scheme of things, you've got all kinds of time for finding a boyfriend and having a long term relationship. When it's meant to happen, it will. :)

You'll thank yourself if you find a nice guy to be with instead of finding someone just to match up with your friends. I'm sure some of them regret losing their virginity so young. There is nothing wrong with waiting or taking things slow, it's usually better in the long run to take that approach.

Just try to enjoy school and get involved, you'll feel less lonely and have chances to meet more people (and guys :p).

Don't rush it, waiting for that speical guy, is awesome, because when it happens which it will it will be amazing, i swear.

Your saying your freinds all have bfs and i'm assuming are telling you they doing things with them, chance is they probably not, they just saying there are to make them look better, they used to do it in my school.

Jodie its really not weird to have not had a relationship in year 10 or year 11 even... in fact at any age.

I didnt have any kind of proper relationship with a guy until I left school and theres plently of people who dont.
Dont rush into things just because your friends are.
You have a had a lot more than what I had at 14.

I have to say I'm 18 and been in only one relationship my current one and it is serious, but I didn't find anyone till I was 18, everyone finds someone at a different time. And being in a lot of relationships is worse sometimes because you can't find the right person to be with. And honestly to me you can't say you've had several serious relationships really I feel if you've had so many how could they mean that much to you?

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Originally Posted by Lonely-Reject

Im only 14, but all the other girls i know have had many serious relationships, and a ton of people my age, like my mates and stuff have lost their virginity.

Okay... I'm sorry to all the other 14-year-olds who may read my response, but...

"Serious relationships"? At 14? Look, I believe it's possible to fall in love, and have a meaningful relationship at that age... but I wouldn't call any relationship between two 14-year-olds "serious". You're still kids, for goodness sake. You haven't matured physically, emotionally, or mentally enough to fully appreciate what a "serious" relationship would consist of.

I mean, how many of your friends are using birth control when losing their virginity? How many of them even know WHAT birth control is? How many of them have made plans, in the event that the girl ends up pregnant? Has the boy found a part-time job, in order to fulfill his financial commitment as a father, if the problem arose?

You're not a reject. You're not rushing into a relationship, you're taking your time, and you're not making decisions that you may regret later on in life. ENJOY your time as a 14-year-old, before you have to grow up and take on "adult" responsibilities. There will be plenty of time for dating, kissing, and sex in the years to come. Go at your own pace, and don't let your friends dictate what is and isn't "cool".

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Originally Posted by Rhop101 (Post 305175)

Addition: I agree totally with Robin. At 14 most people haven't finished developing and a lot of the people that were in relationships when I was in high school went from relationship to relationship because there were insecure and didn't show remorse which is usually needed to get over the last person.