Confused about my fantasy.
 

So basically, I have this fantasy where my girlfriend will have sex with another guy while I watch and I feel really confused about it. I don't know why I feel this way, and I don't know if I should tell her or even how to tell her.

I think about it a lot and I feel like a weirdo.

Re: Confused about my fantasy.
 

What you describe actually has a name. It's called cuckolding, and it's not uncommon. I know many people who have this fantasy and engage in these types of scenarios and relationships. My question is, what confuses you about it?

Re: Confused about my fantasy.
 

I kinda knew it was called that from finding porn about it. I thought "cuck" was an insult though??

How do your friends who do these types of things find it? Does it work for them?

I guess I feel confused about if I should tell my girlfriend, how I should bring it up, what to expect, etc.

Re: Confused about my fantasy.
 

"Cuck" can be an insult, but it isn't inherently one. A lot of people I know who do this sort of thing though get off on the humiliation aspect of essentially being emasculated by another man, so they would enjoy getting called that.

I should note all my friends are adults over the age of eighteen. I do not know your age, but if you are a minor it might be harder to engage in this sort of activity. Personally, I came into a group through a friend of mine. I believe other people in this group found it through word of mouth and through adult websites. However, again, you have to be an adult to engage in these sorts of groups (though the website is 18+, the group is 21+).

I think the best way to bring it up is to be direct. Hopefully you and your girlfriend are pretty open about your sex life with each other. Let her know this is an interest of yours and ask how she feels about it. It can't hurt.

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We are both legal adults.

I guess I'm just worried she'll react poorly, feel like I don't care about her, etc.

Re: Confused about my fantasy.
 

That's why you make sure to address those things. Make sure to emphasize that you care deeply about her and that's why you want to share this experience with her, IF it's something she's open to. Approach it like a fetish: this is something you desire, but only if she consents. You two can work out the details or an agreement or whatever if she's open to it.

Alternatively, you could ask about opening the relationship in general if you want to ease into it softly, but that could be considered dishonest if the only reason you want to open the relationship is to see her have sex with someone else.

Re: Confused about my fantasy.
 

A lot of people have an unnormal fantasy.