Letting a guy touch your breasts
 

I wonder what people think about a situation like this. I was hanging out with this guy who I ended up giving a handjob to. He's just a guy I know, not a BF. So yes it was a casual handjob. While I was doing it he wanted me to take my shirt off and bra so he could feel my breasts! I told him that was a lot farther than I wanted to go. And he complained that allowing the handjob means he should be able to do it. I refused to do it and he ended up getting mad at me!

I've always thought that handling a penis was a lot less serious than a guy touching a girl. I've never considered the act of doing a handjob for my own enjoyment would make me owe the guy anything. I'm curious what other people think! :?

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I don't think you would have owed the guy anything just because you were giving him a handjob. I suppose he just wanted a little more, to see your breasts. I don't think he should have just assumed that he could see/feel your breasts just because you were giving him a handjob. I don't know whether giving a handjob is less serious than a guy touching a girl. I think it's tit for tat (excuse the pun).

You made it clear to him that you didn't want to do anything more than give him a handjob. So for him to get pissy was a bit pathetic. But heyho, don't let it affect you! I think it's wrong that he just assumed he would be allowed to do that just because you were giving him a handjob. If he was unhappy with you touching him, and him not being allowed to touch you, he could have asked you to stop! But I don't a guy would ask for that.

I hope I helped, take care :)

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In my personal opinion, handjobs and fingering (since it's the female equivalent) are more serious than boob touch-age. They're just boobs. I like mine and I like when my boyfriend plays with them.

But I don't think you "owe" him anything when you were giving HIM a handjob to begin with. Certainly don't feel pressured to let him touch you if you're not okay with that. But how I see it is: your boobs are an erogenous zone that are less invasive if touched. I wouldn't go around letting everyone touch your hoo-ha. But I think you touching his genitalia is a bit more "serious" than him touching your boobs.

If you think you could warm up to the idea, maybe keep your shirt or bra on and let him touch you that way to get more comfortable.

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you don't owe hm anything, but i don't see why bood touching would be a big deal in compared to a handjob. But regardless if you dont want him touching your boobs then thats your choice and he needs to respect that and be happy he is getting a handjob.... serious any other guys out there that would complain??? thats just weird.

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He obviously thought the situation was more intimate than you did. Just because he's a guy doesn't mean intimacy is meaningless to him. You should probably try to define exactly what such actions mean to both parties before performing them.

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It is only natural for a guy to want to go further with a girl when he's in a sexual situation with her like that, and first things first, very well done for standing your ground and saying no to him. Many girls can give into pressure from boys, for many different reasons and it can take a lot to turn them down, especially if the heat of the moment is rising.

I would say that girls touching boys and vice versa would be about the same in terms of seriousness, as there are also probably many other girls that feel the opposite way to you on that matter. Whichever way round it is done, it is completely natural, but doesn't mean that you have to leap into doing it, no matter what your age. It's about when you feel ready to, and when it comes to getting intimate with somebody, it is your comfort that is primary. If you feel uncomfortable with something they are saying / doing, you should be able to tell them and make them stop. As for this boy, he obviously didn't respect the boundaries to which you will go inside your comfort zone, and to get angry about it is just wrong. You'd be better finding a boy that would respect you, or learn to.

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I know I'm young and there is a lot I do not understand or know. I just can't get the "casual handjob" out of my head. I totally understand the not touching your boobs. It is your body and your decision, but how does touching a boy come up? I would have thought it would be a b/f. Did he ask you to or did you? I admit. I have never been with a boy. So just wondering. I hope it is okay to ask.

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I'm guessing the reason he got mad is because you gave him the wrong impression. Handjobs definitely are more serious, and since you were willing to do that for him I guess the guy got the impression you liked him or wanted to engage in mutual sexual activity. Basically instead you pretty much said "no, I'm doing this purely for my own enjoyment, I expect to touch you wherever I like but demand full privacy of my own body". The double standard is slightly sexist. A "casual handjob" would be the exact same as being "casually fingered", and I doubt you'd be too happy if any guy suggested that.

You definitely don't owe him anything, and him getting mad at you was a little silly. It's good that you didn't let him pressure you or anything and you handled the situation fine. But yeah, definitely more serious. Let him know your exact intentions next time.

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You pleasing him = You owing him? Guide him to lefty if he starts to do anything more or do the same thing again, but if you don't want anymore don't let yourself feel pressured or guilted into something, but i doubt you will

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OMG

"Allowing a handjob"? As if it's a privalege for you?? Who's getting pleasure from that, you or him? You. And who gets pleasure out of feelings your boobs? Him. You didn't owe him anything. He owed you. You did right to tell him where to stuff it.

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I personally think showing and handling breasts is less serious on the sexual scale than a hand job. Regardless, you don't owe him anything for giving him a hand job. It would have been nice, but you don't owe him, and to guilt you into trying to do it is an immature move.