Feeling bothered about my friends dating
 

Ok, so two of my friends have been dating for a few weeks. I've had a crush on one of them for quite a while, but I never asked her out, not so much because I'm not brave enough to, but because I don't want a girlfriend. I've never had a girlfriend. Sometimes I get lonely and see happy couples and I wish I had what they do, but most of the time, I can't see myself being in a romantic relationship. Having crushes isn't simple and linear for me; I would explain it, but frankly I don't understand it myself. My other reason for not asking her out is that I'm afraid of losing our friendship. In 2011, I liked a different friend and asked her to a dance. She said no and started ignoring me and when she did talk to me (usually when I initiated it), she was kind of condescending and it just made me feel worse. This lasted for at least a month before I told her it was bothering me that she wasn't acting like my friend anymore which pretty much fixed the problem and everything is back to normal with me and her now. Anyway, I don't want that to happen with me and this friend.

Now, I was sad and jealous about the relationship at first, but I moved on very quickly. I accepted it and even felt happy for them, but today I was having a conversation with my mother and I mentioned that they were dating (this wasn't the point of the conversation, it just came up) and she started telling me things like "I thought you liked each other! The poor girl was probably waiting for you to do something! You have to do something when you like someone or someone else will! I wanted you to take her to prom!". It's not my mother's business at all and I tried telling her that and she sort of respected my wishes, but the things she said stuck and they're making me feel bad about it again and I feel bad about feeling bad about it because they're my friends and I should be happy for them.

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