Facing violence is I pursue dating this girl
 

Hi all! Its been a while since I've been here, but you folks always gave good advice!

I have a problem. Around 2 years ago I met a girl at work, and she rather quickly got with a guy who everyone knew was not right for her. I don't mean to be judgmental, but he had been abusive before and was this time. Not pretty.

Now they're broken up... After a what seemed a very messy 2 year relationship form the outside at least, as part of her friend group we would often console a sobbing girl.

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5 months ago or so we went to a party together without said partner, and got put to bed very drunk in the same bed. One thing led to another - between two consenting adults and we slept together. I don't regret it as such, if she hadn't been with her boyfriend it would have happened a lot longer beforehand. Cheating is cheating nonetheless and I'm not proud of that. There is problem number 1, the guy is abusive and if he knows that happened I have no doubt there will be a physical confrontation, soon.

5 months later and I've come back from an extended vacation and she is now single. We met up as a group of friends and the moment we were alone she turns round and kisses me. No complaints here, I've been head of heels crazy for this girl for 2 years, BUT again, they've been broken up a month maybe? I'm unkeen to pursue anything quite so quickly on from that.

So! There you go, any ideas as to how to approach this without getting beaten the life out of me? Its not just him is the problem, in the small town I live in, he has a 'crew', if I get on their bad side I may as well consider not leaving my house again - and I don't even really feel safe there.

Any advice would be appreciated, and if this is in the wrong sub forum I apologize, but I would like to know about how to go about pursing dating her.

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