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Getting a girlfriend

Hey

So not too long ago i broke up with my boyfriend of 11 months when i found he was cheating. I think i'm ready to try dating again and im interested in finding a girlfriend. There aren't many lesbian, bi etc girls in my area so i'm also open to long distance stuff (and my last relationship was mostly long distance).

Does anyone have advice for getting a girlfriend? I'm almost 15 in age so nothing too extreme and heres my instagram (fat_santa_123) if you want to give me advice on there.

Thanks and I apologise for my intense cringyness:hug:

Re: Getting a girlfriend

Hey!

I feel your pain about not being able to find other girls who like girls. I would suggest going to places and events directed at LGBT+ people, like pride parades/festivals (although I think most places had those in June). If you have a GSA or something similar at your school, going to that is definitely a good idea. Even if you don't meet any girls you're interested in, I always have fun hanging out with the people at my school's GSA. Also, if you meet any girls who you're interested in, try just casually mentioning that you're into girls. I've done this a couple of times with new people I meet, and there have been two times where they told me that they also weren't straight right after I told them. You might meet a girl who you think is straight, but who might not actually be, and casually coming out to someone gives them a good opportunity to tell you, if they feel like it.

I hope this helped! You can always shoot me a message if you need anything or just want to chat :) Good luck!

Re: Getting a girlfriend

I don't recommend ever going into the dating world with a clear goal (I'm going to have sex tonight, I'm going to meet somebody special, etc). I think this sets a lot of people up for disappointment. Instead, I'd look to get to know more people. Go out with your friends more, expand your circles. Perhaps start volunteering somewhere, join a club at school, ask your friends to introduce you to more students at different schools, the list goes on. All in all, put yourself out there for new people and new experiences. If you happen to stumble upon a cool girl, you can pursue her! But this helps you make more friends while also meet more people as potential partners.

Re: Getting a girlfriend

Hey there, first off sorry about your breakup, that sucks. He clearly doesn't deserve you. As for the whole looking for a girlfriend situation, I'm in a similar position to you, so I don't really have any advice to add to what Traci and Estelle have said... Put yourself out there, but don't go in with a clear goal. If you're open to a long-distance relationship, I guess you could try out some dating apps/websites although I personally think a relationship is worth much more when you can see your partner in person regularly.

Good luck, and feel free to shoot me a message if you want to chat! :)