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Pelios September 5th 2011 02:07 AM

Interracial dating.
 
How many of you are into interracial dating? Why or why not? How important is the race of the person to you? What about dating someone from another culture or linguistic background? Any other opinions?

Eternal September 5th 2011 02:09 AM

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I don't see anything wrong with interracial dating, I don't think it should be a factor in a relationship.
As long as you have an attraction to each other, some chemistry, and like each other then I don't see why it is a big deal. I would certainly date someone of another race :)
Another culture would be interesting, it would give us something to talk about and we could learn from each other. As long as they can speak some english so we can communicate, I wouldn't have a problem with it.

Angel September 5th 2011 02:11 AM

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What do you mean by "into"? :p

I'm in what you would consider an interracial relationship. My boyfriend is Dutch, while I am ethnically Korean and live all the way in America. I don't consider race to be that important and no one else I know really cares either.


It's not like a fetish, no. I know some people really like Asians (for example) to the point where it is a fetish. That does not exist in my relationship.

Daivia September 5th 2011 02:15 AM

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Obviously I think it's fine. I haven't personally asked anyone out who is of a different race, most likely a combination of factors: I live in a very Caucasian city, and I find Caucasian men and women more attractive on average then I do men and women from other races. I think it's just personal preference versus one's options.

Madeleine.Claire September 5th 2011 02:17 AM

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I don't think someone's race would ever stop me from being attracted to them.
If I like someone then I like them, I would never judge another couple because one's white and one's black or anything like that.
Live and let live, if people love each other and are happy in the relationship then let it be. (:

TheCrowing September 5th 2011 03:25 AM

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Most of my relationships have been 'interracial'. I find nothing wrong with it and I feel as if it just so happened that most of them weren't the same race as me.

I find that it's good to date outside of your race though, because it's a good way to learn more about other people's cultures and such. Even though I have many friends outside of my race, I feel that dating other races has given me like.. that inside look at the different beliefs and culture around me.

Pelios September 5th 2011 07:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Angel (Post 717518)
What do you mean by "into"? :p

Some people are just not into it like my friend is Mexican and she says she just cannot date a African-American guy because she is not into it.

Evanesco September 5th 2011 09:02 AM

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My boyfriend is part Caribbean. Interracial dating has never been a problem for me, neither has it been anything I pay particular attention to. It honestly doesn't matter. I think I need the person to be able to speak English, at least as a second language, but other than that, if I'm attracted to them and we have things in common, then anything goes.

MegaMadness September 5th 2011 09:56 AM

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I could be in a interracial relationship, it wouldn't worry me. As long as I am attracted to the person I could be in a relationship with them. That being said I love Asian guys :p

PlayingPretend September 5th 2011 11:22 AM

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I think that it would depend hugely on the person. I tend to be more attracted to people of the same race - won't necessarily say the same breed :p (I've never been muchly attracted to an American, per se) - but this isn't saying I've never found outside races attractive. But we would have to "click." And by click I don't mean personally. I mean if we both shared completely different cultural values, as did our families, I'm not sure I'd be willing to make it work. Yes, there's always room for compromise, but I think if two people follow two completely different paths and don't share the same views on a lot of important issues/places in life, then it's not going to work. Hence why I said it depends hugely on the person, because I wouldn't want to be in a relationship simply to learn about another culture.

Acheron September 5th 2011 12:57 PM

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I dated a Japanese girl, briefly. She was on some kind of student exchange from Tokyo University. Probably the most beautiful girl I've ever dated, and shy in a way that was cute rather than annoying. Blushed a lot. Her English was pretty awful, but she wrote better than she spoke so we communicated by passing notes. Unfortunately it all went pear-shaped when her boyfriend found out (:p), but I still remember her fondly. So yeah, I've dated interracially and across cultural barriers, and I'd absolutely do it again. There are attractive girls from every background.

Venenum September 5th 2011 01:59 PM

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Never done it so far. But it wouldn't matter if I were in love.

I have lots of friends which are into interracial relationships.

Guardian_Angel September 5th 2011 02:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Acheron (Post 717724)
I dated a Japanese girl, briefly. She was on some kind of student exchange from Tokyo University. Probably the most beautiful girl I've ever dated, and shy in a way that was cute rather than annoying. Blushed a lot. Her English was pretty awful, but she wrote better than she spoke so we communicated by passing notes. Unfortunately it all went pear-shaped when her boyfriend found out (:p), but I still remember her fondly. So yeah, I've dated interracially and across cultural barriers, and I'd absolutely do it again. There are attractive girls from every background.

Archeron, every post you makes brings me laughter xD

As for me, well seeing as my father is white, and my mother is black, its likely I will end up in an interracial relationship either way! xD

that being said, I, for some reason, prefer girls who are caucasion, I just feel more of an attraction for them.

I believe its more of a cultural thing as well, as I was brought up by my father, and I feel the white British culture is more part of my identity, and therefore feel more synergy with those from a white cultural background.

Now saying this, would I be adverse to dating other races? Certainly not, it would never be an issue... Now I have had it be an issue with partners families before...

Harmony♥ September 5th 2011 02:47 PM

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For me, personally, I haven't dated anyone of a different race nor have I ever been attracted to someone of a different race.

I'm not sure why, but I have no problem with people who do chose this, or are in interracial relationships. It's just my personal preference to date within my race. I guess it's partly based on the way I was raised (my family is from the south and it was frowned upon back in 'their' day). But, I've also just never found myself attracted to anyone of a different race.

If my views were different, I don't think I'd have a problem with it.

Work_In_Progress September 5th 2011 03:36 PM

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I am currently in a interracial relationship of 5 months. My girlfriend is a student at my university and is from China.

It's not a fetish thing for me, it just so happened that we had a few interests in common and then we spent time together as friends for about a month and then she agreed to date me. However, there were a few times where some white and black guys would come up to me and whisper to me ''living the American dream huh?'' and then I would laugh a little.

There are some aspects of her personality where it is much more appealing than girls from North America because of her background, and there are other aspects of her that stem from her individual personality. So whenever there is an argument or disagreement I would not be like ''Oh, it's because she's Asian.'' :nosweat:


Sorry to hear about the Japanese girl Acheron, just keep in mind that she probably got an overload of an earful when she went back to Japan. XD

Ancora Imparo September 5th 2011 04:15 PM

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I wouldn't limit my options of the people that I'd consider dating just because of their race so interracial dating wouldn't be a problem for me. Not to mention that there are women of different races who I do find attractive so if me and that person were to click then there would no reason as to why I wouldn't date them. I just figure that I will fall in love with whoever I fall in love with, race doesn't come into that. So yeah, what can I say, I taste the rainbow. :p

HiddenSmile September 5th 2011 06:40 PM

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I am currently in an interracial relationship myself, so I have no objection to it. My boyfriend is Mulatto and I am Caucasian, he's British, I'm American. I really have nothing against interracial stuff, because race doesn't really matter if you're in love.

Infinitely Us September 5th 2011 06:53 PM

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I don't see anything wrong with it but my parents do. If they are a nice person and they have a wonderful personality, I don't see the problem! I think people should date black, white, asian, chinese and anything else they want without being judged! IK know tons of people will disagree, but like I said I don't see anything wrong with it and its my opinion.

kadyCHAOS September 5th 2011 09:16 PM

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I don't see anything wrong with it at all. Nor would I limit myself to just dating certain races, however I find myself more attracted to my own race. Just a personal preference I suppose.

dr2005 September 5th 2011 09:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Acheron (Post 717724)
I dated a Japanese girl, briefly. She was on some kind of student exchange from Tokyo University. Probably the most beautiful girl I've ever dated, and shy in a way that was cute rather than annoying. Blushed a lot. Her English was pretty awful, but she wrote better than she spoke so we communicated by passing notes. Unfortunately it all went pear-shaped when her boyfriend found out (:p)

Classic. :p

Anyway, while I'd be lying if I said I don't notice differences in ethnicity on some level it's as much of a non-issue as it can be as far as I'm concerned. I have friends from various different racial and cultural backgrounds and it has no bearing on said friendships, and based on who I have been attracted to in the past it has no bearing on who I date either. Who they are as a person is much more important.

SouthernBelle. September 5th 2011 09:55 PM

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It depends.

I'm attracted to very few men of other races, but then again, I've never really met men of other races, either... So.

Silver Starlight September 5th 2011 11:11 PM

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For me, I don't even mind. We're all human beings. As long as they can speak English. :bleh:

Ennui. September 6th 2011 02:42 AM

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I have no problem with interracial relationships. However, the only crushes I've had on people who weren't white happened when I was in first and fourth grade, so they don't count. I'd be willing to be in an interracial relationship if I loved the person, but so far I haven't really had much interest in people who weren't white. I don't know why.

dinoscool3 September 6th 2011 04:28 AM

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Inter-racial is defenatly fine. I, myself, have dated a Bangladeshi girl.

affairsguaranteed September 6th 2011 07:05 AM

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I feel that there is nothing wrong with interracial dating. I think people of different races often have widely different upbringings, when two people of divergent backgrounds are attracted to each other and decide to get together, the combination of their individual, unique experiences can work together to create something very special. Being exposed to new cultures, new languages, new foods or becoming familiar with the lifestyle of those living in different countries can all be enriching, allowing for new ways of thinking about life in general.

Tara. September 6th 2011 07:08 AM

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I don't have a problem with it, though honestly I'd be uncomfortable dating some one outside of my race.

Guile September 6th 2011 08:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Tara. (Post 718300)
I don't have a problem with it, though honestly I'd be uncomfortable dating some one outside of my race.

About the same opinion here, it's up to the person, and I don't care either way, but I don't think I would really.

BUNNIEZ^_^ September 6th 2011 09:49 AM

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I have absolutely no problem with it! :D

My boyfriend of almost 2 years now has a Chilean father and an Irish mother, but he was born in Australia like me :) The only thing that culturally separates us is his love of spicy food, whereas I can't stand anything more than mild. :nosweat:

At the end of the day it comes down to skin pigmentation and geographical location, really. Alot of people seem to be naive and get worked up over this kinda stuff, which imo is absolutely crazy O.o

savealife723 September 6th 2011 04:19 PM

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I don't think that race should be a big problem in a relationship at all. I think that letting race be a deciding factor is silly.


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