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So my ex-boyfriend, let's call him L(cuz idk if I can say names here), L used to tell me I was the only reason he had left for living, and that he loved me so dearly, but I broke up with him because I never had feelings in the first place. I pick a guy and say "I have to like him, it'll make people happy if I'm straight" but I'm like 99% sure I'm a lesbian. L used to say "Oh when I get my hands on you" and shit like that, which I never consented to things like that. So isn't that sexual harassment? He used to do it all the time, and would JO to me and tell me about it. I was scared to break up with him because L can lose his MIND on things like that...one of his ex's killed herself, so yeah. I didn't want L to blow up and go into a suicidal panic. But I did it anyway for myself. And now I realize "damn...picking and choosing guys to 'like' isn't normal" so now I have to figure out how to break up with my current boyfriend and explain "yo...I'm a lesbian" and shit...RAHHHH GOD DAMN IT why is life so frekaing hard. I'M FUCKING 12 AND IN THIS POSITION>..<
I can't help but repeat myself
"I know it's not your fault"
Still lately, I begin to shake
For no reason at all
~ I can't handle change - Roar ~
Now he won't stop flirting with me again. Saying how "Cute" I am and that I'm the "cutest girl in Connecticut" (word for word an email he sent me last night)...WHAT DO I DO?
I can't help but repeat myself
"I know it's not your fault"
Still lately, I begin to shake
For no reason at all
~ I can't handle change - Roar ~
Honestly this relationship doesn’t seem healthy so I’d block him if possible. If blocking isn’t an option I’d at least ignore his messages until he gets the hint. His response to you breaking up with him is not your fault. For your current boyfriend I’d just be honest that you’ve discovered your sexuality and it’s not his fault, or anyone’s fault.
Do you ever get a little bit tired of life
Like you're not really happy but you don't wanna die
Like you're hanging by a thread but you gotta survive
'Cause you gotta survive
I ended up breaking up with him at a field trip yesterday but he was very understanding. For my ex on the other hand, he said to me yesterday: "cute little things you deserve to feel loved" like true I do but I like someone else...I'll try and block him.
I can't help but repeat myself
"I know it's not your fault"
Still lately, I begin to shake
For no reason at all
~ I can't handle change - Roar ~