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because i'm not allowed to be happy




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Re: ready for the afterlife - June 30th 2009, 05:01 PM

Hey there Jodie,

Of course you're allowed to be happy! Why wouldn't you be allowed to be happy?
Has something triggered you to feel this way, Jodie? If you provide us with some more information then we may be able to help you more with how you're feeling.
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Re: ready for the afterlife - June 30th 2009, 05:36 PM

Hi Jodie,

you are definitely allowed to be happy! I know that sometimes the people or situations around us can make that really hard - but that just means that we have to try to find a way to change that, not to completely give up on people and being here. What are the obstacles right now for you to being happy? We're always here to help figure out how to beat them.

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Re: ready for the afterlife - June 30th 2009, 06:52 PM

hey,

why do you feel you're not allowed to be happy. everybody is allowed to be happy and everybody deserves to be happy. it's not your time to die yet, you're still young, you have your whole life to live, happily. you just have to give it a chance. please hang in there. [:

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Re: ready for the afterlife - June 30th 2009, 07:01 PM

My parents say my boyfriend uses me, because he stays at the house half the time and my parents don't mind but when he goes they put me down by saying things like that and they know it hurts me and don't stop i want to get away from everything because i can't make my parents happy and i don't want to split with Chris so i guess it's time =[




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Re: ready for the afterlife - June 30th 2009, 08:24 PM

it's not your time.
tell your parents that it hurts you that they say stuff about him and you wish they would stop. sometimes you can't make everybody happy including your parents but it doesn't matter, you have to worry about making yourself happy and doing what's right for you. killing yourself isn't the right choice and you know that.

imagine how much it would hurt your boyfriend and your parents.
plus i'm sure there are other people who care about you who would be hurt.


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Re: ready for the afterlife - June 30th 2009, 11:09 PM

i don't know anymore =(
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Re: ready for the afterlife - July 1st 2009, 01:20 AM

you can do it.
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Re: ready for the afterlife - July 1st 2009, 04:05 AM

Hey Jodie,

I am sorry that you are going through this but you are allowed to be happy and you deserve it too. Please don't do anything rash because I think that you will make it through this. It may be rough right now but with times all things change and pass.

If you care about your boyfriend and don't think that he is using you than that is all that matters. When it comes to relationships other peoples opinions really don't matter. Jodie, does your boyfriend treat you with respect, kindness, loyalty, etc? Because if he does then that seems like a pretty decent relationship to be in.

It says you are 19 and if that is true do you think that you could start making plans to move out on your own? Maybe you need to start branching out from your parents, you know? Get away from their hurtful words?

Lastly, have you actually told your parents that their word hurt you? If not give it a try you might be surprised at their response. Sometimes parents can be really over protective and they don't realize how that behavior is affecting the child they are 'protecting'.

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Re: ready for the afterlife - July 1st 2009, 04:21 AM

Hey Jodie,

I'm sorry that your parents aren't being very helpful. But their own crabbiness definitely doesn't mean that you should go or anything. I know that it's easier said than done, but try not to listen to the hurtful things they say. Just because they say something doesn't mean they're right, and doesn't mean that they're doing what's best for you. Please keep trying to do what's best for taking care of you. Or would it help any to talk to your parents, ask them what specifically is bothering them about the situation and what rational suggestions they have for changing it so that everybody can be happy?

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Re: ready for the afterlife - July 1st 2009, 04:46 AM

hey. Im sorry about whats going on right now, i know its hard. ive been through it as well. Everyone is strong enough to get through it if they believe. you have all the right to be happy. stay strong, and remember theres always someone to talk to
   
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Re: ready for the afterlife - July 1st 2009, 05:17 AM

Hey Jodie, you deserve to be happy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Just like everyone else!!!!


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Re: ready for the afterlife - July 1st 2009, 11:02 AM

I want to move out but can't i'm on jobseekers and everyone i know is waiting for a council house, my boyfriend is the best boyfriend ever we've been together a year next week, i've tried talking to my parents but they don't listen




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Re: ready for the afterlife - July 1st 2009, 02:47 PM

I can understand parents not listening. Is there anyone else, like another family member, you could try calling in as "backup" to help sort things out with your parents?

Don't worry, there is some way to work everything out.

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Re: ready for the afterlife - July 1st 2009, 03:27 PM

No there isn't because my grandmother tells my parents everything i tell her




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Re: ready for the afterlife - July 1st 2009, 06:59 PM

i'm sorry but you're 19 so it's not really up to them who you see and not and you said they allow him to come over they just talk about him when he's gone, right? just ignore them and don't let what they say bother you to the extent that you have to take your life, it's not worth it.


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Re: ready for the afterlife - July 2nd 2009, 03:38 AM

Hmm... any other sort of adult in your life you could maybe ask for support from? What about anyone in your boyfriend's family? And Cassie's right - you're nineteen, so you get to decide and live your life, not your parents. Too bad for them if they get annoyed by that. They're adults and can make their own decisions about what they let bug them and what the don't - it's your turn now, too.

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